Ancalagon
Dusty Dragon
I use it all the time and encourage others to do so. It's so much fun!
Current characters include a gravedigger, a goatherd, and a graduate of a girls' finishing school.
... I have questions about that finishing school....
I use it all the time and encourage others to do so. It's so much fun!
Current characters include a gravedigger, a goatherd, and a graduate of a girls' finishing school.
Right, exactly. Any decent DM is going to prevent egregious mismatch between the background narrative and the mechanical benefits of that background, which makes it absurd that this is the one place in the game where the rules give carte blanche to the player without even nodding toward the idea of DM oversight.
I allow it, but in limited circumstances.
I don't allow complete "mix and match" backgrounds for purely mechanical reasons. In other words, I don't allow players to custom-create backgrounds in order to cherrypick tool proficiencies/skills/features purely because they give the character a mechanical advantage.
On the other hand, if someone comes up with a background idea that makes sense, I'll allow it.
Different tables, and all that.
My take on it is that if a person is looking for mechanical optimization, then they have to do it through the published backgrounds.
If they want to take advantage of a custom, DM-approved background, they need DM approval. And that means selling me on a reason other than, "Because I needed these skills and proficiencies."
I don't tell someone they are playing the game wrong.
You and I (and our tables) just have very different approaches.
There are a core set of backgrounds that players can chose from. There's no problem with any of them. You can chose them for whatever reason you want- a good reason, a bad reason, or no reason at all.
But if they want to create a custom background, then there has to a reason for that custom background at my table. Because otherwise, it would just be a default of, "Pick two skills, pick two proficiencies/languages, pick one feature." And that's not how we roll.
You can roll as you wish, preferably without insinuating that we are engaged in playershaming and #badwrongfunning people.

a bad reason