Hussar
Legend
Well, and I know this probably isn't a great answer, the answer to most of that is, "it depends." And that really sucks. Sure, it's a minefield and it doubly sucks for those who aren't doing anything even remotely malicious but are getting swept up in the backdraft as it were. And, on the surface, these are all perfectly reasonable questions. But like a lot of fairly simple questions, the answer is a lot more complicated.IMO. True acknolwedgment has much bigger stakes. It sounds simple but it's intertwined with so much else. It's like starting out as a child and learning how to interact with the world all over again.
1. How do I determine if something is racist/sexist/homophobic/etc?
2. What actions are acceptable/required if it is?
3. What actions are acceptable/required if it isn't but someone claims it is?
4. What actions are acceptable/required if it is but someone claims it isn't?
5. Are the acceptable/required actions changed depending on the race of person making the claim compared to my race?
6. If I do or say something wrong on this (even accidently), what are the consequences?
If you really want acknowledgment about the racist/sexist/homophobic then help people figure out the answers to these questions.
I mean, take the first one - How do I know? Well, the truth is, you can't probably. Not until someone else tells you. You don't know what you don't know, and if no one tells you that something is wrong, then, why would you think it was?
At the end of the day, all you or I or anyone else can do is just listen and accept, even when you don't really think that it's a problem. Better to err on the side of caution than assume bad faith.
---- edit to add
Poop. I did mean to put this in first but stupid brain got it out of order. Bad brain. Must punish you with more alcohol.
I do apologize for the tone. I am really bad at that and I know I am. You are obviously really trying to understand and I'm a douche. Thank you for taking the message as it was meant.