As a player, I'd say "I attempt to move to flank (enemy) with (ally)." If the DM says it would provoke, I take that into consideration. As a DM, I think it depends on the numbers. If one side has twice as many as the other, flanking is automatic. If they're even, I'll give it a 75% chance of doing it without provoking, being outnumbered gives 50%, and outnumbered 2:1 is only 25% chance.