ExploderWizard
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Disengage, I too prefer a more " old school" approach to gaming but when I pick up the dice to play 4E specifically I take the silliness at face value and run with it. If I were to ever DM a game of 4E I would pretty much just run it as written. There are other systems out better suited to simulationist style games that won't drive you mad trying get them to make sense. Change systems or relax and go with the 4E flow would be my advice for optimum sanity.

Disengage, I too prefer a more " old school" approach to gaming but when I pick up the dice to play 4E specifically I take the silliness at face value and run with it. If I were to ever DM a game of 4E I would pretty much just run it as written. There are other systems out better suited to simulationist style games that won't drive you mad trying get them to make sense. Change systems or relax and go with the 4E flow would be my advice for optimum sanity.