Aldarc
Legend
Maybe it would be a better approach, @Bedrockgames, rather than saying that the GM deciding the brother was dead would be okay with "lots of people" or "guys I know" to talk about why it's okay for you personally in your preferred playstyle to declare that the brother was dead since you are the one invested in this particular playstyle preference.
Innerdude's game of choice is Savage Worlds. Pemerton runs a gamut of games, including Classic Traveller. It's not as if we are all coming from fringe games or communities.This would be like me taking my sandbox approach and acting surprised when I run a game with Pemerton, Aldarc and Innerdude. It would be especially annoying to them, I am sure, if I did so using PbtA or Burning Wheel (which I am assuming I might even have to bend rules to achieve). From the segment of the hobby they come from, that is a style norm I am violating.