Well, as for the players and such... this is the only group around that I know of. Well, there's one more group I know of, but the person that I know in it is definitely NOT the brightest shade of black in the box. If I were going to leave these guys it would be for better, not the same.
I don't think the "let them die over and over" will work. Because the point of enforcing some rules and battling metagaming was to create an atmosphere of everyone developing minds and strategy. Thinking for themselves and what not. Instead of there being 5-6 people and 2 people actually playing, the others just moving mini's around. If I want to play mono y mono I'll look in a mirror. At least then I can't be caught in a surprise round.
Unfortunately they aren't developing as fast.. or at all... as I thought.
Anyway, I'm still trying to find this feat. I found the spell Grave Strike, to allow SA vs undead. But I've heard on this thread and another talk about a feat, but no one seems to know where I can find it, or the stats/prereq for it or anything. If someone can help me out plz let me know