My advice for recruiting a female gamer...
DON'T BE A CREEPY GAMER NERD!!!
Go on dates, find a girl for yourself and teach her to play, boom, you have a female gamer. Later, after you have dated and married her, you can do all those things married people do and make a few of your own, it's really the only surefire way.
My wife and daughter and my friends' wives and daughters all play, it's much easier than trolling the local game store asking, "so do you wanna come over to my house and play D&D?" And it's also less creepy. (And much safer to your ... ahem ... unmentionables.)
[Prof. Frink] With the kicking... and the pain... and the blacking out...oy.. [/Prof. Frink]