And thus it ends ...sorta

[MavrickWeirdo]

To say "we're getting off topic" is saying that you wish to narrow the field of advice that he has access to. Personally, I would want to know all the possibilities before I moved on with something so monumental (and I have).

What I meant by "off topic" was: it seemed like to conversation was moving away from being about megamania, and becoming about "what is the appropriate response". I 'm not asking anyone to limit what they say to megamania, I was suggesting that in this thread it would be better to direct our comments to him, rather that each other. (Which I am guilty of as well at times. like now.)

 

[Darthjaye]

No one here has given him bad advice, just different.

I agree Mavrick, but I feel like I need to reiterate this again. So far, no one has. That being said, if other posts of advice don't jibe with your philosophy, post your own and leave it alone. Your just gonna (either on purpose or accidently) compound things. When you tell someone their advice is bad in your mind what do you think their reply might be? Does anyone here really think that most of the denizens of EN World or any other forum say to themselves "yeah, he's right" most of the time? In this particular instance, with this particular thread, we just should submit our opinions on how he should handle his problems, not on other entries that don't align with your way of life. Mega is a big boy, if he doesn't like what he hears from someone I suspect he can comment on his own or just ignore it outright.

Now, with that in mind, I know someone has to get their two cents in and comment on my commentary in some negative way. If this proves to be true, then ignorance truely is bliss so I expect someone will be happy within a few posts of mine.

 

[Darthjaye]

What I meant by "off topic" was: it seemed like to conversation was moving away from being about megamania, and becoming about "what is the appropriate response". I 'm not asking anyone to limit what they say to megamania, I was suggesting that in this thread it would be better to direct our comments to him, rather that each other. (Which I am guilty of as well at times. like now.)

Ageed, I merely got my response off a moment after yours regarding just that.

 

[Chimera]

Now, with that in mind, I know someone has to get their two cents in and comment on my commentary in some negative way. If this proves to be true, then ignorance truely is bliss so I expect someone will be happy within a few posts of mine.

[hijack]

Anyone in particular in mind, or just a general "someone is going to feel the need to violently disagree" feeling?

A while back, one particular person seemed to follow me around this board and post scads of invective every time I indulged my habit of using Hyperbole to make a point. Seemed to me that he just didn't get the whole concept on an intellectual level and that he somehow thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me that his constant hammering could knock out.

I always figured that it just made HIM a huge (expletive).

[/hijack]

 

[Darthjaye]

[hijack]

Anyone in particular in mind, or just a general "someone is going to feel the need to violently disagree" feeling?

A while back, one particular person seemed to follow me around this board and post scads of invective every time I indulged my habit of using Hyperbole to make a point. Seemed to me that he just didn't get the whole concept on an intellectual level and that he somehow thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me that his constant hammering could knock out.

I always figured that it just made HIM a huge (expletive).

[/hijack]

Naw, it's just that everytime someone tries to smooth things over or be diplomatic, someone has to show up and be a complete tool about it and take shots at them so I figured i'd alot for it.

So far so good though

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Megamania, You still reading this? :\

 

[megamania]

Megamania, You still reading this? :\

Yes I am and I am mulling over everything said here, by my family and friends and also my wife and her would be husband.

A lot has happened in the past few days. Even as I have been soul searching, so has the wife.

She is first asking him to leave. She finally saw some of his violent issues and is now speaking to the police about restraining orders / orders of tresspass against him to be safe.

We are planning on seeing a marriage counciler as soon as possible.

I know this is far from over and each of you have made a valid point. To the monitors- thankyou for not closing this since it was a little more heated than most OT subjects.

Hopefully I will not need to write about this further here.

Thankyou everyone.

 

[Thornir Alekeg]

That is great news Megamania. Keep realistic about things. Counseling is good, but may not fix everything the way you want it.

Best of luck and stay strong.

 

[Treebore]

Your nicer than I am. Once trust is broken, it is broken for good in my book. Since I would never be able to trust your wife again I would divorce her. She's lucky you believe in the possibility of regaining trust.

 

[Harmon]

Issues of trust are hard to rebuild.

Remember that wanting a relationship to succeed and needing it are two different things. Breaking that trust can be more shattering then you can ever imagine, even now.

I hope you guys can get this behind you, because its more likes the only way that you will make it.

Personally I would have a hell of a time with trusting someone that betrayed me like that, but- well, you are a better person then I. Good luck.