Can't game at your own house?

[Scotley]

There is another advantage to the hotel option. Once in a while you can stay someplace a little more romantic than the $45 a night place and you and the gf can benefit from it after the game is over.

 

[Agback]

One important question -- who's on the lease? If he's primary, then...ask him for a refund on the times you're not allowed to use the common areas. If you're primary, he can suck it up, for reasons everyone has given below. If you're both equal, then you both have the right to use the common areas, and the right to have friends over.

Do they both have the right to move their girlfriends in? The OP is already using two-thirds of the apartment.

 

[Agback]

It's your living space too. I assume you're paying equal shares of the rent.

I assume that the OP is paying two-thirds of the rent and utilities. Remember that he has moved his girlfriend in 'temporarily', and it sounds as though she has been there for at least two months. Moreover, it seems as though the OP is planning for her to be there for months to come.

There are two selfish jerks living in that apartment, and neither of them is the OP's roomie.

 

[devilbat]

All roomates are bad roomates, IMO, it just takes time for them to turn bad.

So very true. I hate roommates.

Keep playing in your space. this guy's going to have to learn how to deal with two nights a month. If you want to be a nice guy about it, pick up another cable receiver, specifically for his room on a permanent basis. This way you are going out of your way to be the bigger man.

If this doensn't make him happy, boot him.

 

[Oryan77]

Chances are that he really doesn't like to relinquish the living room and has been dealing with it in the past, he mentioned it to one of his drinking buddies (never good people, btw), and got pressured by his drinking buddies "not to put up with it." Am I right?

I doubt he would talk about this with his partying friends, but maybe he has with his gf. Maybe she pursuaded him to speak up about it. But this is all speculation and I don't want to assume anything. It wouldn't really matter anyway.

Have you considered that your roommate may be frustrated with the fact that your girlfriend is temporarily living with you?

No, him, his gf, me, and my gf all get along well together. His gf stays the night a lot but not enough to bother me, and he felt the same about my gf visiting. He had no problems with her staying with us, he's understanding about that at least I think part of the problem is that D&D isn't something that can include him at all and he doesn't want to play it. And he doesn't want to be forced into burrowing in his room when he doesn't normally hang out in his room anyway. Which I can understand. But is that really my problem when all he wants is to watch tv & eat dinner? He can do it in his room, he just doesn't think he should be forced to.

It's your living space too. I assume you're paying equal shares of the rent. If I were you I wouldn't let him get away with trying to make a dominance play in the living space, which is what this is. He wants to be more important than you, and he needs to learn a bit of humility and consideration.

That's exactly the impression I have & is a reason I was angry after reading his email...it seemed like he's getting too big for his pantaloons and is trying to be the dominant one in the house. He's getting used to being a bigshot at his job now so he's trying to exercise his muscle at home also. I think he does need to learn a bit of humility & concideration like you say. We pay equal rent & share everything 50/50. As I said, he's a good roommate besides this hic-up....best roommate I've had, and everyone knows how hard it is to get a good roommate.

 

[Agback]

I hate roommates.

The feeling is doubtless reciprocated.

 

[Agback]

it seemed like he's getting too big for his pantaloons and is trying to be the dominant one in the house. He's getting used to being a bigshot at his job now so he's trying to exercise his muscle at home also. I think he does need to learn a bit of humility & concideration like you say.

His point of view is probably that you and your girlfriend are between you dominating the apartment, and that you need to learn some consideration.

We pay equal rent & share everything 50/50.

That is in no way fair. You are getting accommodation and utilities and a share of the common areas for two people. You owe him 1/6 of the rent and utilities back to when your girlfriend moved in, and you ought to pay 2/3 up until she moves out.

Take a hint, sport. The thing with your girlfriend staying full-time is not working out.

 

[scourger]

Yeah, there are no problems with this guy until your girlfriend (recently?) moves in and now the game every 2 weeks is a problem? Sounds like the game is just a focal point, not the real issue. If the place isn't big enough for you to game in your room or for you to game in the same area as the TV is going, then the 3rd person added to the residence is probably the real source of the displeasure.

So, get a room. Use it for gaming until 9 (or whenever) and then for yourself and your girlfriend until check-out time the next day. You pay for it and enjoy it for yourself and your girlfriend. Let everyone else chip in for food, drinks or room service. That's my suggestion. I would jump at a chance like that.

And yes, I have heard of people traveling, renting a room and gaming. I think it was a "lost weekend" for some guys I used to game with (one I still do). It was generally regarded as good fun--much better than camping & gaming which turned out to be more camping than gaming.

As an aside, I think you'll return to better roommate relations once the girlfriend moves out. Good fer her for not wanting to move in together. Good for you, too; although it may not seem like it now. Just my opinions. Good luck.

 

[IronWolf]

I went with the continue to play option. Your roommate needs to learn to deal with it. It's as much your apartment as his and you are asking for two Saturday's a month. Now your girlfriend complicates things a matter, but really it sounds like you are near college age or near a college campus, its to be expected that at various parts of the year some female will end up living with you. I can't tell you how many impromptu female roomates I have had while in college (mine or the roomate(s) on the lease). It is to be expected!

 

[Oryan77]

There are two selfish jerks living in that apartment, and neither of them is the OP's roomie.

With an attitude like that, I hope you never get put in the situation where you need someone to help you out while you get your feet on the ground No, my roommate is very cool about my gf staying with us. And my gf is very cool about working hard & fast to move out. She graduated a month ago, got her first full time salary job last week, & has spoken with a dozen people this week about rooms for rent.

If you want to be a nice guy about it, pick up another cable receiver, specifically for his room on a permanent basis. This way you are going out of your way to be the bigger man.

I think that's the best advice I've gotten so far. Paying an extra $5 a month for another receiver is the least I can do to show my gratiitude for him "letting" me use the living room all day like that. And it's cheaper than a hotel & I still get to game at home. If someone offered this option to me, I would be grateful for it and may be willing to compromise a bit easier. Maybe I'll suggest this to him. He would even get to watch tv in his room even when we aren't gaming and he just wants to fall asleep watching a show.