MNblockhead
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In the example with your friend. If the entire adventure revolved around this cult, should the DM have changed it on the fly? I don't know the adventure in question or how that particular gruesome practice of the cultists may have played in the story. Perhaps the DM could have just changed it to they are capturing women. Perhaps your friend would have been fine with just that they were capturing pregnant women but not with having the rituals described in gory detail. I think that an adventure like this should come with some warnings in the registration text.
I truly believe that DMs and other players should be sensitive, empathetic, and accommodating. But can you draw a line? At some point, can the group simply say, sorry, but this is what we all game to enjoy. Sorry it bothers you, but nobody is forcing you to play. The issue I have with books like this is that it makes black and white rules that entirely support the person with the objection.
I truly believe that DMs and other players should be sensitive, empathetic, and accommodating. But can you draw a line? At some point, can the group simply say, sorry, but this is what we all game to enjoy. Sorry it bothers you, but nobody is forcing you to play. The issue I have with books like this is that it makes black and white rules that entirely support the person with the objection.
I'm in my 40s, and I've played a lot of stuff that could be deemed "mature" content. Now granted, that was mostly when I was a teenaged edge-lord, but I didn't give a lot of thought about comfort level.
I have a transgender player at my table. I don't think about her as a different player. But while we were playing a dungeon that had that classic curse trap of gender swapping, I took pause. I didn't want to make it a joke. I came up with a different cosmetic change trap.
But I never thought there would be something that would offend me. I'm pretty lax and have a bawdy sense of humor.
Then I played a con game revolving around investigating a cult that kidnapped pregnant women for the sole purpose of killing them and letting their fetuses die in womb. I was sitting next to my best friend, whose wife just had a miscarriage. It was awkward, insensitive (especially for the GM to continue after we asked him to stop), and it cast a dark tone over the rest of the con.
So yeah, a year ago I might've laughed over the idea of this kind of book. Now, I can see its purpose.