No, I understand your P.O.V. I might respectfully suggest you aren't taking the time to understand my point of view.
It is exceptionally obnoxious for someone to say that I'm doing anything regarding telling them they aren't playing something right when I have done no such thing. You can play however you want, and whatever is fun for you.
But since you are accusing me of being dismissive since I answered you (TWICE) before trying to change the subject, here it is:
You do not want to accept that other people want to play differently than you do. I accept that you might desire to play, say, an UGLY race for RPing reasons, or that you might want to explore some alien aspect or idea that you can only do through the adoption of a "race."
Good for you!
Of course, I could point out, quite easily, that:
1. There are more than enough options to play an UGLY human. You can go back to the original Rogue's Gallery and Lassiviren the Dark as an example of someone exploring that in context. Then again, there have always been plenty of examples, even in a limited number of races, for someone to play an "ugly" race, such as a half-orc.
2. Exploring an alien psyche is really part of the whole concept of roleplaying (or any kind of acting) and will happen as soon as you take on a role. As the excerpted quote that I began the thread indicates, it is very difficult to get people to roleplay well as HUMANS with a full gamut of HUMAN EMOTIONS separate from their own, or, for that matter, separate from "I wanna level and get an ASI." So, yeah, color me somewhat skeptical that a) someone needs to have a particular race in order to roleplay, and b) that person will then explore something they could only do with that particular race that also synergizes with some mechanical abilities that they want.
3. That said, I am more than understanding that some people prefer or need masks; playing something that is, theoretically, alien and "not human"(but is really just a human with some exaggerated quality) could allow someone to truly explore some aspect of a personality in a safe environment; whether it's a Corellon-inspired elf and gender, or a Lizard Folk and autism, there are all sorts of ways that a person can use some characteristic and seize upon it for RP purpose. That's fine; it might not be strictly necessary, but if that's either fun for them or necessary, that's cool too!
You can do what you want. I tend to run humanocentric campaigns for my old group (and my new old group) and PHB-only campaigns for groups I am teaching D&D. That's me. Do what is fun for you.
But stop bugging me about the way I play, and assuming that I don't understand you simply because I CHOOSE A DIFFERENT WAY TO PLAY.
K?THX.BYE!