Dating Myth or Truth?

[The_Universe]

A definite "yes" vote here. My lady always tells me that she knew she would marry me the very first night we met.

She was right, of course.

As my wife points out above, we both remember just "knowing" what was going to happen once we actually encountered eachother in a situation that allowed us to think about it in those terms.

But we're dealing with memory here, and I sometimes wonder whether one or both of us manufactured that remembered assurance out of the depth of the love and trust that grew out of that first "real" meeting. I can remember it, plain as day - but does that mean that I *actually* felt that way then (or, more important to your question, if *she* actually felt that way)?

I'm not sure, and I really can't be, because memory is such a tricky thing.

In the final estimation, I'll say this - first impressions are powerful, but hardly insurmountable.

 

[Evilhalfling]

hmmm. probably.
When I first met my wife we were each with 2 friends. She was looking to make out with a differerent guy for the 3rd weekend in a row, and thought that either I or one of my friends would do. I deceided that she was the least annoying of the three pretty girls and the two of us spent the the whole night ignoring everyone else. Neither of us was looking for more, as we were both only at home for Thanksgiving break. Our friends were still hanging out over christmas, so we got back togeather. This became a LDR, over emails and MUDing where we actually got to know each other.

It seems like her first impression was looks and mine was personality, as she was cute, but not the best looking of the three. (the best looking is now a proffesional stripper, and I knew right off that she was too wild/dangerous/unstable to form an attachment with. )

 

[Thotas]

I'm really just amazed to find another Bokononist, thought I was all alone ...

 

[fusangite]

I'm really just amazed to find another Bokononist, thought I was all alone ...

Well, as long as we don't form a granfaloon of Bokononists, I guess it's alright that we've met.

 

[Umbran]

Well, I expect that, as individuals, women will vary.

Some women may form opinions very quickly, and never change them. I don't expect that this is the same as "knowing", except insofar as having a strong opinion tends to to becoming self-fulfilling prophecy, especially in the negative. If she's got an unshiftable opinion that a gent isn't for her, of course the relationship will fail. This is how preconcieved notions operate.

Personal experience - not all ladies come up with such notions and keep them. My wife tells me that, upon first meeting years ago her first impression of me was "intimidating and scary".

 

[Rel]

My wife tells me that, upon first meeting years ago her first impression of me was "intimidating and scary".

Well, duh.

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