It is causing tension at the table. It is not fun for the rest of us to have to do all the heavy lifting.
I'd have a lot more sympathy for you if this character was being a passenger, refusing to take risks, etc.; but she's not - she's in there givin' 'er in the way that best works for her, and being entertaining at the same time. Love it!
There have been times where we really needed the skills a wizard has and we have failed at the mission and almost faced a TPK because of it. We like our characters to and we want to them to succeed and live.
Then in character, wouldn't the party eventually decide to go back to town and hire a more conventional wizard to do all the wizardly stuff, and let this guy carry on doing what he's doing? (in other words, pick up a 5th character - an adventuring NPC wizard)
I came here hoping to find some advice on how to talk to talk to him to get an understanding on why he enjoys playing characters like this. While I am no powergamer I don't understand playing a character like this I don't understand the enjoyment he gets from it so I don't know how to talk to him about it. I would like to find a compromise where he can have some of his fun but we have fun too. I am starting to dread the after session emails that start flying fast and furious.
It is frustrating that we have to struggle so hard to accomplish things because one member is not really contributing anything but chaos. The Elf when not fist fighting in combat is getting drunk in taverns and starting fights and getting thrown in jail or being rude to the city guard or the mayor. The character concept is a drunken elf who got kicked out of wizard school and is angry at the world. Again that could be a cool concept if she was good at one thing and that one thing is why we put up with her otherwise obnoxious behavior.
Both the DM and I have said to him look is there anyway you would be willing to tone it down a little or at least make your elf good in combat so all that tavern brawling comes in and makes you a decent fighter in combat. The DM offered to let him rebuild so he could take the feat unarmed combat she also offered to let him redo his hit points and just take max at every level something the rest of us agreed to even though we don't get to do that because at least it woulds give him a chance to actually survive the concept he wants to play. But he sees all that as min maxing powergaming.
It is like there is a gulf that we can't seem to bridge on what for example min maxing and powergaming is.
I think [MENTION=6803664]ccs[/MENTION] hits the nail on the head here: it's possible the player is intentionally going against min-maxing (and maybe going a bit over-the-top about it, to make a point) in hopes others will follow suit. As for the in-character rudeness part, what is this thing's Cha score and other socially-related numbers? If they're poor, then all you've got is someone playing his character in character*. If they're good, you've perhaps got more of a problem.
That said, realistically this character probably has the life expectancy of a fruit fly; and the player is (I hope!) well aware of this. If so, and he still wants to play her till she drops, then have at it!
* - there was a character like this in my current campaign: he played his Cha 6 as social ineptness thus he couldn't say two sentences to anyone without completely offending whoever he was speaking to...yet he insisted on being the party "face" at every opportunity. He was a reasonably competent Thief otherwise, but sometimes I think the party kept him around mostly to do the rest of the world a favour.
Lan-"sometimes the most valuable character in a party isn't the one who's always saving asses, it's the one that keeps players showing up week after week just to see what it'll do next"-efan