Ildym has a charisma of 10, but he not really polite.
Anyway, if randomling feels insulted, ooc, I'll delete it and I apologize in advance.
Now, two words about why he reacts like that: if you read his bio, you may discover some clue (but htat would be ooc knowledge). He doesn't get well with people who have a nice life and have foolish desires to go on adventure and risk death, maybe because such life is precluded to him.
What he says is that she desires to have somethink (bad) happening in town, but then she won't be the only one in danger. And even if there's no mechanical difference in the system, it is normal for Ildym to think that most women are worse at fighting than most men.