Hriston
Dungeon Master of Middle-earth (He/him)
I'm questioning your assertion that Ravenloft is an "unquestionable example" of such a time. I think the mentions in this thread of setting material that depicts libraries and tutors in Barovia and that the Vistani are permitted to regularly pass through the Mists run counter to that assertion."There are a great many times when a player's background feature would be absolutely bonkers to apply." was pretty critical to that, I don't know what you are trying to refute.
No, I was asking why the DM should be the one to decide when and how a player's background is relevant. And I was also asking if you, as a real person, when making use of your own real life personal connections from your past, have your own sense of whether they are relevant to a given situation, or if you have to check in with someone else's sense of whether they are.Are you asking why the GM should get to decide how the NPCs & world elements that the GM is running respond to players? The answer is simply because the GM is the one in charge of those things.