Do you trust your DM?

[el-remmen]

Well, I haven't played in a few years, but when I was playing regularly I totally trusted my DMs.

Now that doesn't mean I never questioned anything. . . it just means that I never jumped to the conclusion that the DM was making a choice only to screw me/us over - sometimes I just thought they might have something wrong.

But generally, my group(s) have a very supportive gaming culture - which is to say - the DM will often ask a player to look something up for him to help out a situation, or the players will say "its not that important, we'll play it like X for now and keeping things moving, and check after the game", etc. . .

Oh, and any "questioning" I might do usually happens after the game or during a break.

 

[el-remmen]

Yes, completely. But it's taken a few years to get to that point, and "trust" doesn't preclude "frustration".

You talkin' about me?

 

[Nalfeshnee]

I voted yes mostly (but then again, i am the DM at the moment )

though i would ahve voted no, mostly for any of the other DM's i my group. our group is small (4 - 5 players without exception) s we have little choice in the the matter -whoever gets an idea for an adventure generally gts to DM. One of those guys in the group would fit every part of the '10 ways to ruin your game' section from the DMGII... not very good

 

[el-remmen]

I also wanted to note that as a DM I do my thing with the assumption that I have my players implicit trust. . .

 

[Michael Silverbane]

I also wanted to note that as a DM I do my thing with the assumption that I have my players implicit trust. . .

I also assume that my players trust me when I am DMing... On the other hand, I don't particularly care whether they trust me or not. If I make something up that doesn't clearly fall within one of the rules, then I'll be more than happy to explain it to the player that calls me on it. I am also more than happy to throw things at them, as well. (note that the people that I play with are all my friends, and we generally throw things at each other for whatever reason... or for no reason at all).

Later
silver

 

[Michael Silverbane]

This is an interesting poll. I guess I can't imagine continuing to play with a GM that you didn't trust. I'm wondering if someone who doesn't trust their GM could talk about why they continue to stay in that game.

I don't always trust my GM to interpret the rules in exactly the same way that I do, but then when he's running the show, it's his show to run. The moment I can't accept that fact, well, I probably couldn't stay around.

--Steve

I talked about this a little bit in an earlier post, because all of the DMs in my group have various weaknesses that I have become aware of while playing with them, and simply take into account when making characters for or playing in their games.

Although, when I say that I don't trust my DMs I mean, "I think that they are going to do certain things that I don't agree with for reasons that I find to be beyond comprehension." and not, "I think they are out to get me and to ruin my good times."

If, for whatever reason, I thought that a DM was out to get me or trying to ruin my good times, I would gladly slap them, and then I'd use my words to try to resolve the situation. If that failed, I would probably not continue to play with that person. I can't, for the life of me, figure out why anyone would try to do this during a D&D game, though. Has anyone actually had such an experience?

Later
silver

 

[kanithardm]

Ive only ever had three DMs the last two were the best DMs ever. The first one did not understand that when u take a CR 9 creature make it stronger and give it the ability to sense everything in the room without rolling and then send it at a group of four lvl1 PCs, where only two have ever played before, its not a good idea.

And i still get blamed for running and leaving the group to die to this very day. *sighs*

 

[RFisher]

Life is too short to ruin a game by distrusting the DM. Better to take an attitude of implicit trust & enjoy the game to its fullest. If you eventually find that even with your best effort you can't enjoy playing with that DM, then--hey, you gave it your best shot. Time to move on.

Now if I could just live by that...