Glyfair said:
There are plenty of things to buy of the content and quality I demand that I can choose who I buy from. I don't need, nor choose, to buy from people who feel that civility is something that they don't need to bother with.
Handily, if you don't need to make a decision whether or not to buy my stuff than you are not the target for my stuff. I don't write "game supplements" as part of an amorphous quality of generic pap that could be switched out with something somebody else does.
That is the crux of it: Smart writers and designers are not "competing" for your dollar in the sense of, "Goodness me, which of these five duengeons adventures do I buy?" They work on a particular niche so that *you* decide whether you want the subject matter at all.
At the very least, an inability to be civil in a forum that deals with their product shows a lack of professionalism.
Conversely, I think consumer decorum has degenerated so badly in the past decade as consumers have swollen with a false sense of entitlement that, given a society that falsely tells them they are always right for no other reason than to toss another begging bowl in a world of artificially depressed margins, that reading something that doesn't take your fancy on the Internet strikes me as an excellent start.
I'm sure many people want to beat around the bush or in some cases, tell you comforting lies about themselves and the dealings they have with others.
I'll give you a concrete example:
There are two .pdfs about hacking and cyberspace for sale on RPGNow. I wrote both of them. One of them is from mean old Gareth Michael Skarka's company and the other is from ENPub member, and all-around outset of nice guys, Dark Quest games. Neal Levin sure is a nice guy! He always sounded calm and even tempered in email. Smmoth guy, for sure.
Skarka on the other hand . . . he says all kinds of things. He's blunt and makes no promises. He sometimes gets confrontational. I once saw him at Gen Con while I still didn't like him and nearly went off. Only the sedate manner of Mike Mearls kept me from making a dumb mistake.
What's the difference between those two guys? Well, it's that Gareth paid me what we agreed on. Neal didn't. Gareth paid me from deadline one. Neal released a first draft without my consent, didn't notify me and didn't pay me for a full year. Gareth sent regular statements and breakdowns. Neal didn't respond to multiple emails until I unilaterally offered a kill fee at an incredible discount for my services.
Oh -- and Gareth pays other people. Other people feel they've been screwed by Neal.
But Neal's nice, so who cares, right?
I don't feel there is a need for me to test to see if that person should feel profesional in other areas.
Then you would have bought from the guy who I think almost screwed me.