Ever been kicked out of a gaming group? Admit it!
- Thread starter Emirikol
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Yes
Recently, after returning from Iraq, I was rather desperately looking for a group to join, thinking I would be happy with just about anything. Joined a group (of all adults, mind you) and started to be put off by "immature-mature gaming." (Players offering sexual favors to NPCs to drop prices of magic items and such....) Also, the DM, the youngest person in the group, was relatively immature and inexperienced. He has (had) potential, but had a really weak story with LARGE amounts of railroading. He loved for everything to be "mysterious" so that even if you made an insanely high Spellcraft or Knowledge (ANYTHING) check, you still had no idea what is could be. (He had a House Rule that if you rolled a 20 on a skill check, you started added bonuses to 30, not 20. I got a mid-40s result, as a mage, on Knowledge (Arcana) and agian on Knowledge (Planes) and still had no idea about a magical effect that happened.) As a result of all this, I got a bit dismayed about the game in general, and became stand-offish IC and slightly arguementative and derisive OOC. At the end of a session he asked opinions on what he could do better as a DM, being new and all. I told him to relax a bit, and stop relying on his computer so much, since it was slowing down the game, and that less railroading would be nice. I wanted to try and keep playing (even though it was a bad group) until I could find a better group, but the next day I received an email stating our play styles were to different and suggesting (not foricing) I find a different group. I bowed out at that point.
Now, another game, I got a bit of a "send-off," though it was mutually understood. We were playing in an evil-campaign that was actually working (at first). Then my character started being talked down to and looked down on by another character (it was actually a problem the other player had with me, that started to spill into the game). My character began plotting his betrayel, and when the lines were drawn it was me, my cohort, a "hired-gun" and one NPC against the rest of the party, seven people. (This actually reached this point on purpose because I was leaving for basic training, or else it might have gone down differently, with people dieing in thier sleep.) When everything was said and done, my character, being an uber-mage, walked away alive, with half the other guys dead, the others badly beaten. It was a fun send off, with no hard feelings.
Recently, after returning from Iraq, I was rather desperately looking for a group to join, thinking I would be happy with just about anything. Joined a group (of all adults, mind you) and started to be put off by "immature-mature gaming." (Players offering sexual favors to NPCs to drop prices of magic items and such....) Also, the DM, the youngest person in the group, was relatively immature and inexperienced. He has (had) potential, but had a really weak story with LARGE amounts of railroading. He loved for everything to be "mysterious" so that even if you made an insanely high Spellcraft or Knowledge (ANYTHING) check, you still had no idea what is could be. (He had a House Rule that if you rolled a 20 on a skill check, you started added bonuses to 30, not 20. I got a mid-40s result, as a mage, on Knowledge (Arcana) and agian on Knowledge (Planes) and still had no idea about a magical effect that happened.) As a result of all this, I got a bit dismayed about the game in general, and became stand-offish IC and slightly arguementative and derisive OOC. At the end of a session he asked opinions on what he could do better as a DM, being new and all. I told him to relax a bit, and stop relying on his computer so much, since it was slowing down the game, and that less railroading would be nice. I wanted to try and keep playing (even though it was a bad group) until I could find a better group, but the next day I received an email stating our play styles were to different and suggesting (not foricing) I find a different group. I bowed out at that point.
Now, another game, I got a bit of a "send-off," though it was mutually understood. We were playing in an evil-campaign that was actually working (at first). Then my character started being talked down to and looked down on by another character (it was actually a problem the other player had with me, that started to spill into the game). My character began plotting his betrayel, and when the lines were drawn it was me, my cohort, a "hired-gun" and one NPC against the rest of the party, seven people. (This actually reached this point on purpose because I was leaving for basic training, or else it might have gone down differently, with people dieing in thier sleep.) When everything was said and done, my character, being an uber-mage, walked away alive, with half the other guys dead, the others badly beaten. It was a fun send off, with no hard feelings.
Thornir Alekeg
Albatross!
Nope, not that I'm aware of. I guess it is possible that a group broke up and then reformed later without me without my knowledge, thereby kicking me out in a roundabout way.
sckeener
First Post
Yup, if you count the entire group going their own different ways. The group split into a few groups. It was very messy.
from what I have heard the game continued to run for a little while after I left, but has since died.
One of the problems was one player was not interested in gaming. She viewed sex and gaming as bartering tools in her marriage. Her husband liked to game. She was the sort that would sit at the game table, roll when told to roll, but in general was working on something else the entire time (book, websites, art, etc.) This would not have been so bad except she was the jealous sort and she viewed her husband, a player, as the DM. The only thing I can see since she uses sex & gaming as barter with her husband is that the gaming wasn't solving the itch for her husband, so her allowing him to game was a different deal than he was use to....
from what I have heard the game continued to run for a little while after I left, but has since died.
One of the problems was one player was not interested in gaming. She viewed sex and gaming as bartering tools in her marriage. Her husband liked to game. She was the sort that would sit at the game table, roll when told to roll, but in general was working on something else the entire time (book, websites, art, etc.) This would not have been so bad except she was the jealous sort and she viewed her husband, a player, as the DM. The only thing I can see since she uses sex & gaming as barter with her husband is that the gaming wasn't solving the itch for her husband, so her allowing him to game was a different deal than he was use to....
el-remmen
Moderator Emeritus
Yes.
I once joined a game and brought in a neutral good character and the DM failed to mention that everyone else in the group was neutral and evil.
We spent one session disagreeing and fighting and when a few weeks passed without word of another session I confronted the DM and he admitted he had simply had not invited me back b/c my good character was too disruptive.
We reached a compromise and I began to run a secondary campaign that was more heroic with some of the same players and it was all good in the end (no pun intended).
I once joined a game and brought in a neutral good character and the DM failed to mention that everyone else in the group was neutral and evil.
We spent one session disagreeing and fighting and when a few weeks passed without word of another session I confronted the DM and he admitted he had simply had not invited me back b/c my good character was too disruptive.
We reached a compromise and I began to run a secondary campaign that was more heroic with some of the same players and it was all good in the end (no pun intended).
The Cardinal
First Post
I'm the GM. I am the one who kicks players out 
Nomad4life
First Post
I’ve never been kicked out, but I’ve bailed on at least three groups that would probably have found me uncomfortable to be around after a short while:
1. An AD&D group that did far too much sitting around doing things other than playing the game; socializing, messing with computer games, listening to music, etc... That would be fine with my friends, but I didn’t really know these guys that well. I just sorta quit showing up, and they quit calling me back after a short while.
2. A Shadowrun game where I was just really uncomfortable around the other players. They were all maladjusted anti-social screw-up types. During the third session, I intentionally got my character killed, then pretended like this really upset me (in truth, I couldn’t have cared less.) I used this as an excuse to walk out of the game. Looking back, this was probably not a wise thing to do, but I was young and REALLY wanted out of there.
3. A Vampire game that was such a bad experience that I’ve never played that game since. Let me tell you, there is nothing more pitiful and depraved than a bunch of unhygienic geeks using an RPG to act out their violent misogynistic fantasies involving girls they knew back in high school. This was the only game I’ve ever gotten up and walked out of in the middle of the first session.
So no, I’ve never gotten the boot, but only because I was being proactive. If I had hung around, I probably would have been, since I just didn't mesh with these groups.
1. An AD&D group that did far too much sitting around doing things other than playing the game; socializing, messing with computer games, listening to music, etc... That would be fine with my friends, but I didn’t really know these guys that well. I just sorta quit showing up, and they quit calling me back after a short while.
2. A Shadowrun game where I was just really uncomfortable around the other players. They were all maladjusted anti-social screw-up types. During the third session, I intentionally got my character killed, then pretended like this really upset me (in truth, I couldn’t have cared less.) I used this as an excuse to walk out of the game. Looking back, this was probably not a wise thing to do, but I was young and REALLY wanted out of there.
3. A Vampire game that was such a bad experience that I’ve never played that game since. Let me tell you, there is nothing more pitiful and depraved than a bunch of unhygienic geeks using an RPG to act out their violent misogynistic fantasies involving girls they knew back in high school. This was the only game I’ve ever gotten up and walked out of in the middle of the first session.
So no, I’ve never gotten the boot, but only because I was being proactive. If I had hung around, I probably would have been, since I just didn't mesh with these groups.
I got kicked out of a group once because of character defects on my part.
There, I'll be the first one to man up to it.
Here's the situation. A group of friends who had obviously known each other a long time sent out an invitation for new players. I was living at home while I looked for a job, having just graduated college, and I and another guy signed up for a "trial period" of uncertain length.
After a few months of gaming, I got sent an e-mail saying that they thought it was better if I didn't come back. Mind you, it wasn't because of poor hygiene on my part or because I was completely unpleasant to be around. It was because I wasn't really making any effort to be friends with them. I would show up at the alloted time and sit in silence while they joked with each other and played video games, me visibly impatient to start gaming, we'd play, and then I'd leave. This kind of put them off, and I think the final straw was me finding some humor in the misfortunes of the DM's wife's PC. (At this late date it's hard for me to accurately tell how much of a jerk I was being.)
In minor defense, I had found a job in a city about an hour's drive away, so I was coming in a long way to game near the end there. Still, I think they were right. I simply wasn't being socialable and I wasn't keeping in mind that gaming is a group activity where everybody needs to have fun. I like to think I've gotten a lot better since then.
So there you go. Anybody else want to admit being kicked out because of character defects?
There, I'll be the first one to man up to it.
Here's the situation. A group of friends who had obviously known each other a long time sent out an invitation for new players. I was living at home while I looked for a job, having just graduated college, and I and another guy signed up for a "trial period" of uncertain length.
After a few months of gaming, I got sent an e-mail saying that they thought it was better if I didn't come back. Mind you, it wasn't because of poor hygiene on my part or because I was completely unpleasant to be around. It was because I wasn't really making any effort to be friends with them. I would show up at the alloted time and sit in silence while they joked with each other and played video games, me visibly impatient to start gaming, we'd play, and then I'd leave. This kind of put them off, and I think the final straw was me finding some humor in the misfortunes of the DM's wife's PC. (At this late date it's hard for me to accurately tell how much of a jerk I was being.)
In minor defense, I had found a job in a city about an hour's drive away, so I was coming in a long way to game near the end there. Still, I think they were right. I simply wasn't being socialable and I wasn't keeping in mind that gaming is a group activity where everybody needs to have fun. I like to think I've gotten a lot better since then.
So there you go. Anybody else want to admit being kicked out because of character defects?
kigmatzomat
Legend
I've self-filtered quite a number of times. I think I've spent so much time behind the gaming screen that I get irritated by things that other players wouldn't. As long as I'm the only one not getting into the game, I won't try to change the game. If we're all unhappy, I'll talk to the GM and try to right the sinking ship.
I have had characters that failed to integrate into a game. The mage in the vampire game was working well from the players' point of view but was making it hard on the GM. Since the party lacked muscle I made a bodyguard, which turned out to be more suitable for a non-adventuring role and became a recurring NPC. My gangrel gunslinger somehow became the the complete antithesis of a key toreador NPC (the one now protected by the bodyguard); there were six historical points used to define my PC and in each case they were on opposite sides (french-indian war, spanish-american war, war of 1812, etc, etc). Neither I nor the DM was aware of this fact and it really weirded out some of the players when we started comparing the character sheets.
Finals started shortly thereafter and we just never managed to restart the game. Darn it. It was a great game even if I was churning out characters left and right.
I have had characters that failed to integrate into a game. The mage in the vampire game was working well from the players' point of view but was making it hard on the GM. Since the party lacked muscle I made a bodyguard, which turned out to be more suitable for a non-adventuring role and became a recurring NPC. My gangrel gunslinger somehow became the the complete antithesis of a key toreador NPC (the one now protected by the bodyguard); there were six historical points used to define my PC and in each case they were on opposite sides (french-indian war, spanish-american war, war of 1812, etc, etc). Neither I nor the DM was aware of this fact and it really weirded out some of the players when we started comparing the character sheets.
Finals started shortly thereafter and we just never managed to restart the game. Darn it. It was a great game even if I was churning out characters left and right.
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