Ever had a Player Threaten you Like This?

[MadMaxim]

you should follow your own house rule and tell her accept it or walk

Personally I only award xp if you show up and your character is just not there but if it is your house rule it is your house rule.

It's a houserule I've made to avoid having player characters with huge level gaps between each other. It's the first time she has acted like that, so I'll certainly let it slide this time. I'm actually a bit surprised that she'd pull a stunt like that since I'm the only DM she has for her D&D "fix" :\

 

[RamYaz]

YOU are in charge

Well said JRRNeiklot. When people get that upset I remind them, this is supposed to be a game! Besides, in the end YOU are in charge.

Personally, I'd apologize for forgetting the xp (I wouldn't give people that missed a game any, but that's just me, if it's a standard rule you use, then stick to it), then I'd tell her if she got uppity like that again, not to let the door hit her in the ass on the way out.

 

[Grazzt]

Personally, I'd apologize for forgetting the xp (I wouldn't give people that missed a game any, but that's just me, if it's a standard rule you use, then stick to it), then I'd tell her if she got uppity like that again, not to let the door hit her in the ass on the way out.

Same here, but it sounds like you'd be a lot nicer than I would.

 

[Chimera]

"I'm very sorry that I forgot to give you the appropriate XP.

The amount your character earned was X, as per the stated House Rules.

While I understand your difficulty in not receiving the experience that you deserved,
I strongly suggest that you do not give me ultimatums like this in the future.
Lest I take the less desirable option."

 

[HeapThaumaturgist]

I've found that if somebody is doing something that you don't like, generally, if you stab them in the face, they'll stop.

Of course barring that, she might have just been having a bad day and/or felt a little victimized by the situation in which she's supposed to be getting half-XP for doing something important to her and instead got, from the sounds of it, no XP.



--fje

 

[Vocenoctum]

In a long ago game, in which I played (not GMing), a player was absent, and had an item that was useful for the encounter. Another player took it, used it, then decided he was gonna keep it.

Told the GM that he was keeping it, and the GM better make sure the other PC doesn't try to take it back, or he'd quit.

He had several similar nutjob type encounters where he insisted if his character suffered for his actions, he'd quit, and sometimes just when he didn't get his way.

Funny now, irritating as heck back then.

 

[MadMaxim]

"I'm very sorry that I forgot to give you the appropriate XP.

The amount your character earned was X, as per the stated House Rules.

While I understand your difficulty in not receiving the experience that you deserved,
I strongly suggest that you do not give me ultimatums like this in the future.
Lest I take the less desirable option."

Well said, Chimera.

 

[tonym]

Maybe she was mostly mad that you had forgotten to run her PC. That would've annoyed me, I think. I'd be like, "What? Is my PC too lame for you to remember?"

Maybe by tossing the ultimatum at you, she was giving you an opportunity to evict her and her lame PC from your game.

I'm surprised the subject of her PC never came up during a game to remind you that her PC was missing. How could a PC be forgotten like that? Does she play a mute gnome who walks around invisible all the time or something?

Tony

 

[Sejs]

It's probably just a communications issue, though I can't say for sure, not knowing the person myself.

Just a word of advice - talk to the player and tell her that the tone of her message came across as confrontational and demanding; like an ultimatum. Tone is something that's always been an annoying issue when it comes to text. Tell her that her message seemed rather hostile and ask her if that was the way she was intending it to sound. Then just clarify the if-you-can't-make-it-to-the-game=half-exp house rule in a "look, it's nothing personal, that's just what we (the we is important here) all agreed upon" sort of way. Then just assure her that it's no big deal anyway and that she'll catch up in no time flat, easy.

 

[IronWolf]

I'll just add to the stack of people that think apologizing for forgetting to award the XP (and probably to play her character) and then award the appropriate amount per your house rules. If she is still upset after that, there must be something else going on. Hard to say what though. If it is important to keep her in the game it's probably worth asking her a little about it. She may just have been having a rough couple of days.