Ever had a Player Threaten you Like This?
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JRRNeiklot
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I never said I'd kick her to the curb. I said I'd THREATEN to kick her clean across the parking lot.
Hey, she gave an ultimatum, respond in kind. Do not negotiate with teror..., er irate gamers.
Hey, she gave an ultimatum, respond in kind. Do not negotiate with teror..., er irate gamers.
twofalls
DM Beadle
C'mon folks, it seems that there are a lot of reactionists responding to this thread. What the gal did was rude. IMO the correct thing to do is to do is exactly what was done, follow through on the house rules and then talk about the way the communication was handled and smooth over the rough edges. Who knows what she was really upset about, she handled the situation poorly. If she has a history of handling things like that poorly that's one thing, if not then some latitude can be afforded and the real issue probed. Friends cut other friends slack from time to time, life gets to us all.
I had a situation where a player demanded something from the group or he would walk several years ago. One of the PC's died, and that PC carried an artifact from a previous character this person had played earlier. He immediately demanded that the party hand over the artifact to his character as he was conveniently playing his diseased characters "best friend", or he would leave. There was a long history of issues with this particular player and I told that person to pack up his belongings and leave, he wasn't welcome back. But I stress, this was after a long history of issues and all the other players were firmly on my side about the situation. Again, if she is coming from a history of negative interaction, then yeah, maybe you have a bad fit, otherwise working with it leads to group trust and cohesiveness.
I had a situation where a player demanded something from the group or he would walk several years ago. One of the PC's died, and that PC carried an artifact from a previous character this person had played earlier. He immediately demanded that the party hand over the artifact to his character as he was conveniently playing his diseased characters "best friend", or he would leave. There was a long history of issues with this particular player and I told that person to pack up his belongings and leave, he wasn't welcome back. But I stress, this was after a long history of issues and all the other players were firmly on my side about the situation. Again, if she is coming from a history of negative interaction, then yeah, maybe you have a bad fit, otherwise working with it leads to group trust and cohesiveness.
Grimstaff
Explorer
No show, no exp
I would simply change your rule about giving exp to players who dont show. Thats a definite no-no in my game. That will nip in the bud any future problems of the ilk. Awarding exp to a no-show is wrong on many levels, and so is running a character when the player isn't there. An absent character should be considered "R&R" or on "guard duty".
1) Its not fair to the players who show up.
2) If a players absences are creating a big level gap, then they need to re-assess their commitment to the game.
3) If someone who rarely shows up gives an ultimatum like that, who cares? you hardly see them anyway!
4) Its likely a player who has their character run "in absentia" would be quite irritated if their character was killed, maimed, lost a valued item, lost levels, etc. The risk outweighs the reward. And "playing it safe" with the PC is absurd and would earn no exp anyway.
5) Everyone misses a game now and then, why add insult to injury by trying to dictate some optional exp award like this? Someone is bound to try and abuse it eventually.
6) If a game situation dictates an absent player's character absolutely MUST be used, the character should still get no more exp than an NPC (as they are an NPC for that session), namely 10%-20% of what the PC's are getting.
I had an absent player's character a couple of weeks ago on "guard duty" at the entrance of a dungeon. Following a near-TPK, he was able to drag some bodies out for Rez, and I gave the player a 500 exp bonus for that. But certainly no exp for the bugbears and Deadwood Treant involved in the encounters that night!
I would simply change your rule about giving exp to players who dont show. Thats a definite no-no in my game. That will nip in the bud any future problems of the ilk. Awarding exp to a no-show is wrong on many levels, and so is running a character when the player isn't there. An absent character should be considered "R&R" or on "guard duty".
1) Its not fair to the players who show up.
2) If a players absences are creating a big level gap, then they need to re-assess their commitment to the game.
3) If someone who rarely shows up gives an ultimatum like that, who cares? you hardly see them anyway!
4) Its likely a player who has their character run "in absentia" would be quite irritated if their character was killed, maimed, lost a valued item, lost levels, etc. The risk outweighs the reward. And "playing it safe" with the PC is absurd and would earn no exp anyway.
5) Everyone misses a game now and then, why add insult to injury by trying to dictate some optional exp award like this? Someone is bound to try and abuse it eventually.
6) If a game situation dictates an absent player's character absolutely MUST be used, the character should still get no more exp than an NPC (as they are an NPC for that session), namely 10%-20% of what the PC's are getting.
I had an absent player's character a couple of weeks ago on "guard duty" at the entrance of a dungeon. Following a near-TPK, he was able to drag some bodies out for Rez, and I gave the player a 500 exp bonus for that. But certainly no exp for the bugbears and Deadwood Treant involved in the encounters that night!
Can't say I ever had a player threaten to quit over XPs, but I did have a player take a swing at me once, just because his 4th level fighter couldn't get past a wall of force while the evil mage absconded with his kidnap victim and made a clean getaway...
He was banned from the group for months after that, until he got himself some anger management. Was a real shock because he had been part of the group for years before that episode of violence.
He was banned from the group for months after that, until he got himself some anger management. Was a real shock because he had been part of the group for years before that episode of violence.
Laman Stahros
First Post
MadMaxim said:
Sounds to me like one of the other players told her that you hadn't followed thruogh on your promise. Maybe even joked with her about not getting any XP. I have had similiar stuff happen before. Chalk it up to miscommunication and let it go (unless it happens again).
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