Gaming, Adults, and Growing Up

[Rel]

You're absolutely right honey, I should stop gaming.

If you need me, don't bother calling my cell. I won't be able to hear it over the music at the strip club, and I'll probably be too drunk to pick up the phone anyway. Try to ignore the stripper perfume smell when I cuddle up next to you at 3 am, okay?

This is a false dichotomy.

I both game and go to strip clubs. In fact the occasion on which I most reliably go to a strip club is when I'm at GenCon.

 

[Umbran]

So too often people are left with thinking "adult" means "control".

The irony is that "adult" does mean (in part) "control" - self control.

 

[Sunseeker]

The irony is that "adult" does mean (in part) "control" - self control.

Indeed, it's too bad we must have so many speshul snwoflakes instead of somewhat more mundane, restrained, well-balanced people...of any age.

 

[kyoryu]

This is a false dichotomy.

I both game and go to strip clubs. In fact the occasion on which I most reliably go to a strip club is when I'm at GenCon.

Heh... but I think my point remains, which is that if the OP is going to have, effectively, "guys' night," there's a lot less benign things he could be doing than sitting around, throwing dice, and talking in a cheesy accent.

I suspect that the GF has some, uh, control issues of her own, and that's the real impetus of her speech. Substituting another "guys' night" activity would likely bring about the same response (as I don't think it's the actual activity that's the problem), and I'd suspect that "being mature" would involve spending a lot of time with her.

If that's true, then the most mature course of action for the OP would be to talk to her, find out the real concern and desire, and work out some reasonable level of compromise. If he's gaming 5 times a week, for 6 hours each time, then, yeah, cutting back is reasonable. If he's got a weekly campaign he plays with, and that's about it... well... she can't expect him to change for her.