Charwoman Gene
Adventurer
Goodbye EN World. I've spent a lot of fun time here over the years. I'm leaving as I have to put gaming down for a while, maybe forever.
(Check my profile, yes, I'm Rob.)
(Check my profile, yes, I'm Rob.)
Goodbye
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the Jester
Legend
Flameout FAIL.
That said, good luck!
EDIT: Wow, I just saw the Other Thread. I didn't mean to come across as being insensitive or a jerk or anything; I'm sorry to hear about what's going on. Let me repeat- good luck to you, and best wishes with the marriage.
That said, good luck!
EDIT: Wow, I just saw the Other Thread. I didn't mean to come across as being insensitive or a jerk or anything; I'm sorry to hear about what's going on. Let me repeat- good luck to you, and best wishes with the marriage.
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Odhanan
Adventurer
Just read about your marital problems on the other thread.
I really think you are doing the right thing. Take care of yourself, your wife, and your life together. Get the hell out of the hole you find yourselves into. Work at it together. There's just no time for gaming in this sort of situation. It's pretty clear to me: your choice indeed is to keep up with what you were doing and see your life disintegrate before your own eyes in slow to not-so-slow motion, or push the brakes really hard, stop the BS, and reassess what really matters in your life.
Most of all, keep talking with your wife. Share stuff with her. Be a team. Make a plan. Stick to the plan. And get the hell out of her parents'.
Good luck to you man. Courage.
-Odh
I really think you are doing the right thing. Take care of yourself, your wife, and your life together. Get the hell out of the hole you find yourselves into. Work at it together. There's just no time for gaming in this sort of situation. It's pretty clear to me: your choice indeed is to keep up with what you were doing and see your life disintegrate before your own eyes in slow to not-so-slow motion, or push the brakes really hard, stop the BS, and reassess what really matters in your life.
Most of all, keep talking with your wife. Share stuff with her. Be a team. Make a plan. Stick to the plan. And get the hell out of her parents'.
Good luck to you man. Courage.
-Odh
TarionzCousin
Second Most Angelic Devil Ever
ENWorld will be here whenever you need us--as long as you don't move your bookmarks!
I wish you the best of luck in life and everything.
I wish you the best of luck in life and everything.
SteveC
Doing the best imitation of myself
If you don't mind the input of an outsider...
I think that stepping away from gaming for a bit is a very good idea, since your marriage is much more important than any gaming.
You said that you were religious... not to cross the ENWorld boundaries on religious talk, I'd suggest making use of the counselling services they offer. From my own experiences, I'd say that husbands and wives have a duty to each other, and exploring how you can do you duty to your spouse is the place to start. I have never had this exact situation, but I have had my share of bad times. In the worst place I have ever been, I simply said, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, but I love you. Let's get some help and work it out together." You might be surprised how far that sentence can take you, but only if you both follow through on it.
Gaming will still be here in six months or however long it takes you to sort this out! You and your wife will be in my prayers.
--Steve
I think that stepping away from gaming for a bit is a very good idea, since your marriage is much more important than any gaming.
You said that you were religious... not to cross the ENWorld boundaries on religious talk, I'd suggest making use of the counselling services they offer. From my own experiences, I'd say that husbands and wives have a duty to each other, and exploring how you can do you duty to your spouse is the place to start. I have never had this exact situation, but I have had my share of bad times. In the worst place I have ever been, I simply said, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, but I love you. Let's get some help and work it out together." You might be surprised how far that sentence can take you, but only if you both follow through on it.
Gaming will still be here in six months or however long it takes you to sort this out! You and your wife will be in my prayers.
--Steve
Negflar2099
Explorer
Good luck with everything. The game will still be here (in some form) when you're ready to come back. 
samursus
Explorer
From someone who has been through their own share of personal challenges, I think you are making a "right" choice for you and yours. Sometimes we need to step away from our addictions/distractions, and you have courage for being able to do so. I hope clarity comes to you and you will be able to find a balance in your life. Good luck and the best to ya.
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