Micah Sweet
Level Up & OSR Enthusiast
You can deliberately manipulate someone with the motivation to not be a jerk to them, to not hurt their feelings about something they like, or to avoid conflict. People do it all the time. I just prefer not to assume it.You can feel how you want, but I've seen it enough times with different groups I'm unwilling to write it off.
Though as noted, there's some loading in "disingenuous" that I don't think usually applies, as it implies deliberate manipulation and I don't think that's what's going on.