How have you gotten rid of unwanted players?

How have you gotten rid of unwanted players?

  • Not called them back for the next game

    Votes: 93 46.3%
  • Told them not to come back

    Votes: 136 67.7%
  • Made it unpleasant for them to be there

    Votes: 26 12.9%
  • Killed their character

    Votes: 29 14.4%
  • Blamed your spouse

    Votes: 5 2.5%
  • Blamed the other players

    Votes: 10 5.0%
  • Cancelled the game entirely

    Votes: 56 27.9%
  • Moved

    Votes: 10 5.0%
  • Changed your game to be what they wouldn't like

    Votes: 25 12.4%

  • Poll closed .
None of the above. I have a civilized conersation with them and allow them a chance to change their method. If that fails, then I write them a letter (or email) telling them that they are no longer welcome in a polite way.
 

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Tell them not to come back. Like Frukathka advises, I've tried to lay out what is causing the friction and see if the player is willing to change. I'd like to say it helped, but in my experience (three times in the last decade) two players flipped out with completely out-of-the-blue reactions and a third changed for all of an hour before reverting to his anti-social behavior.
 

Usually I try to tell them to stop. Then I talk to the other players about telling them to leave.

The other players object that they’re “being mean”; but they don’t want to deal with the player either. (see geek social fallacies)

So we wind up doing the passive aggressive type stuff pretend we’ve stopped the game, or stop inviting them, or whatever.

Since I’ve started interviewing and stuff before hand this has become less of an issue.
 



I sent him a laundry list of things he'd have to stop doing or he wouldn't be invited back. Things that were issues we'd had with him for a long time and had talked to him over and over again.

He found something else to do instead of game with us and now calls me a jerk.
And I'm ok with that because our games are much much better.
 

RustyHalo said:
lace arsenic in their cannoli.

Nightfall said:
Eh. Use something they won't look for if you're going for poisons, man.


You know, you're absolutely right. Arsenic I add to the spaghetti sauce (it smells like garlic); cyanide goes in the cannoli (it tastes like almonds)!
 

Emirikol said:
How have you gotten rid of unwanted players?

Politely told them that they didn't fit in with the rest of the group, and that I would have to drop them. Thankfully in my 20 years of gaming I have only had to do this twice.
 

For me the issue became so bad that I had to stop the campaign entirely. I gave it a couple of month cooling off period and then asked those I was interested in gaming with to start a new one. Things were much better after removing the cause of all the angst. This has happened only once in my years of gaming.


-Ashrum
 

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