I... actually met a girl!

[AdmundfortGeographer]

Well, you now have a story to tell her about an ex. If you're feeling mischievous and want to push some guilt, you could send her an email that says "Now that I do have an ex-, here is that story you asked about"...

We got pretty drunk together Halloween night and she told me a few stories about ex boyfriends. and asked me about some of mine, and I had to tell her that I've never had a girlfriend before and she was the first girl I ever went out with. She got a weird look on her face and said that kind of freaked her out, and then didn't really say much to me the rest of the night. Then the next day she sent me a text message saying she would be my friend but she didn't want a long distance relationship. It's funny, but it never seemed to bother her before that night. Then, when I asked her if it would have worked out if I lived in Pittsburgh too and she said yes, but she had never even considered it so it didn't matter, it really hurt. She hadn't ever considered it? Then why had we been talking every day for the past month and gone out twice?

Good luck with the surgery.

 

[Steve Jung]

I'm really sorry for you, Aaron. Both things happening at once just magnifies everything. It'll get better. Good luck with your surgery.

 

[BOZ]

hey man, sorry to hear about it. but you know what? hardly anyone lasts very long with the first person they date (my coworker's and exception to the rule; he's been with the same girl for 10 years, and they met in HS) but it's an important experience for all of us.

i don't know if i posted it above (i'm sure i did, but my memory is pretty short-term so let's have another go) but when i went out on my first date, i was 23 and the girl was creeped out by me afterwards. i was gun shy, and didn't ask another girl out for a whole year. that lasted a couple of months, and had a pretty lame ending. about, oh, a year and a half later i met another girl, and married her about 2 years after that.

don't give up! i used to think i was hopeless, and really got myself depressed about it. it wasn't until i realized that i could be happy *without* a relationship that a relationship practically fell in my lap! oh, the irony!

 

[ssampier]

Good story, Boz.

[small town guy]
Well, looks like that horse was a bit too wild for ya. It bucked you right off the saddle. It's best to dust yourself off, get yourself a clean shirt, and try another young filly that's not quite so wild, I reckon.
[/small town guy]

 

[Olaf the Stout]

don't give up! i used to think i was hopeless, and really got myself depressed about it. it wasn't until i realized that i could be happy *without* a relationship that a relationship practically fell in my lap! oh, the irony!

You'd be surprised how often that happens. I think it is because it shows when you try too hard to make something work. A desperate person doesn't come across too appealing a lot of the time. On the other hand, if you are comfortable in the fact that you don't need to be with someone else it can make you more desirable. People seems to like things that are a bit of a challenge to get. The thrill of the chase and all that jazz. If you are throwing yourself at someone (not that I'm saying that's what you're doing Aaron ) people tend to think, he'll always be there if I need it.

Olaf the Stout

 

[Pielorinho]

Wow, Aaron, that sucks. On the bright side, if you ever want to write a country song, you're set for material!

Figuring out relationships is really no fun, and when folks pull stuff like this on you, it's awful. But if you keep working at it, the chances are excellent that things will eventually look up for you.

Daniel

 

[Barendd Nobeard]

And if your next girl friend asks about your past, just smile and say, "I don't kiss and tell. Or *anything* and tell." Be coy. [grossover-generalization] Women like that[/grossver-generalization].

I'm sorry to hear about your dog. My daughter's dog died about a week ago, so we can empathize with you.

And (finally!) I hope your back surgery went well.

 

[variant]

You are better off without someone that would do such a thing.

 

[Olaf the Stout]

Saw you posting in another thread Aaron. Good to see you made it through the back surgery. How did it go?

Olaf the Stout

 

[Aaron L]

Well, I'm alive. It's debatable weather that's a good thing or not, however. I've been laying in bed for a week in a pretty good amount of pain. I feel very lonely and empty.


Thank you for asking Olaf It made my day. I don't have very many people who care if I'm around or not.