I m a girl get over it

[James Heard]

The people I play with patronize and pat EVERYONE on the head who has never played an RPG regardless of their gender-specific qualities. I have to watch myself for doing it to my daughter who's now playing in a Silver Age Sentinals game now. I had to resist it with my younger brother when he was in high school. I recklessly embraced it when I ran a game for my non-gaming bar crew once. When the strippers at the club I worked at showed up for a D&D game once I had to keep everyone FROM doing it (because otherwise the girls would just eat them all alive.)

Anyways, I've even ran for and played in games ran by my friend's mothers when I was a LOT younger. I got patted on the head and patronized, even though I'd been around the hobby for a while then - I was just younger than everyone else. I don't think it's a sexist notion, but a newbie thing. The only thing that bothers me about women gamers is when they radically change the tone or group dynamic of my game, and that's a problem for any player that joins the group - it just has specific possibilities that don't always exist in male groups (though I've played in groups where I was the only heterosexual male playing too - so I realize that that too is a sexuality thing, and not a gender issue.)

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

I frankly can't believe that male gamers would be so rude and unwelcoming, since all the male gamers I know would be ecstatic to have more females join the hobby.

In my situation, I'm a girl who didn't really hang around with the gamers and even though I always had an active interest in fantasy and RPG's I did'nt explore it or feel the need to till I met my partner. I think that is because I have just recently expressed my keen interest in dnd and all my knoweledge of the game is through reading not actually gaming for years like them. Everyone has to start somewhere tho right?

 

[Rystil Arden]

In my situation, I'm a girl who didn't really hang around with the gamers and even though I always had an active interest in fantasy and RPG's I did'nt explore it or feel the need to till I met my partner. I think that is because I have just recently expressed my keen interest in dnd and all my knoweledge of the game is through reading not actually gaming for years like them. Everyone has to start somewhere tho right?

Sure! And reading the rulebooks is the best way to do it. Frankly, I'm bad because I'm lenient with new players and don't force them to read the rulebooks, as I tend to be able to teach them to play as they go along, but I think they miss out on a lot of important points along the way. You probably know more about the rules without playing some of the younger players that I have DMed for years.

 

[Mystery Man]

When the strippers at the club I worked at showed up for a D&D game once...

*perks up*

Intrigued. Titillated even.

 

[Vraille Darkfang]

I have looked in Divine and Adventurer as I love to read up on the prestige classes. Im CG alignment and being a druid I cannot find many classes that offer a road to go down. Blighters are the only predominant progression for druids but they are evil!

Not to rain on your parade, but....

Druids have to have a Nuetral Component to their Alignment. NG, CN, NG, N, NE. Although a lot of DM's houserule (including me) various druid sects of other alignments. If you really like Prestige Classes, Pick up Dragon Magazine (I'm not sure how much it costs in England though).

Half-elf is a good race choice, although many (including me) feel that they are a bit under powered compared to other races. However, the race leads to really great roleplaying situations, back stories and plot hooks.

If you like FR & Elves, try to find the 2nd editon D&D supplements Cormanthor: Empire of Elves, Evermeet: Island of Elves, and the Myth Drannor Box Set.

WotC also just re-released the Orginal Moonshaes Trilogy (the sequel Druidhome Trilogy should be coming out soon). Both series kicked off the Forgotten Realms & had a big Celtic/British Druid emphasis.

Here's to the start of a beautiful realtionship,
You & D&D that is,

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

Sure! And reading the rulebooks is the best way to do it. Frankly, I'm bad because I'm lenient with new players and don't force them to read the rulebooks, as I tend to be able to teach them to play as they go along, but I think they miss out on a lot of important points along the way. You probably know more about the rules without playing some of the younger players that I have DMed for years.

How long do you think it takes for new players to get a grasp on the game? Obviously it depends on the individual but knowing that I catch on quickly I was wondering how long it would take?

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

Not to rain on your parade, but....

Druids have to have a Nuetral Component to their Alignment. NG, CN, NG, N, NE. Although a lot of DM's houserule (including me) various druid sects of other alignments. If you really like Prestige Classes, Pick up Dragon Magazine (I'm not sure how much it costs in England though).

Half-elf is a good race choice, although many (including me) feel that they are a bit under powered compared to other races. However, the race leads to really great roleplaying situations, back stories and plot hooks.

If you like FR & Elves, try to find the 2nd editon D&D supplements Cormanthor: Empire of Elves, Evermeet: Island of Elves, and the Myth Drannor Box Set.

WotC also just re-released the Orginal Moonshaes Trilogy (the sequel Druidhome Trilogy should be coming out soon). Both series kicked off the Forgotten Realms & had a big Celtic/British Druid emphasis.

Here's to the start of a beautiful realtionship,
You & D&D that is,

Thanks for the info. I think CG was an alignment that most represented my own character but knowing this I will choose my alignment more carefully. Half elf is still a race I would like to persue I'm reading Elaine Cunningham's Forrgotten Realms Evermeet Island of Elves which is a good read so far

 

[Nifelhein]

I think that after a month playing once a week you could know enough of the rules to play it without much thought, in general I don't m,ind players knowing the rules, I want them to try the stuff they think is funny, I am a Dm fort hat reason, I will tell them how the rules fit that and see if he wants to go with it.

I have posted a thread on this for my Midnight community and while I can understand if you do not show up I would love to see you drop by.

Do You Accept Woman? A Midnight debate on female gaming with a rather attention calling name.

 

[dungeon blaster]

A normal! Just because you like dnd doesn't make you any less normal than me The only difference between a gamer and any other person is that they probably have more of a flare when it comes to escapism and a bigger imagination.

Regarding my secret, I'm not ashamed of my love for geeks I just wish they would stop thinking they can't get a normal attractive girl just because they play dnd..its not like you all have the bubonic plague or anything! You give yourselves a stigma by being so paranoid about it... any girl worth knowing will like you for who you are and except that gaming is a part of that

Well there's the rub. Are we talking about an attractive girl or a girl worth knowing? Not that they are mutually exclusive. Plenty of geeks get attractive girls, and plenty of geeks don't. Despite what some girls say about "honesty" and "niceness" being the most important qualities, studies have shown that confidence and appearance are far bigger factors. Appearance is particularly important to attractive girls (sorry guys) as a whole. Obviously, not all girls see that way, but as unfair as it may seem to some (although there's nothing really unfair about it IMO), that's just the way the world works.

 

[Yeoman]

Wanna know what's funny? My wife is starting to really get into d&d, and so when we go to look for new books at the local stores (Riders or Underworld), whenever she asks questions to the staff, they address their answers to me, or they just ignore her. It's mind boggling.