I m a girl get over it

[freebfrost]

Is it just that we are the of the opposite sex or that you are afraid to let us into your world for fear we will see you at your most vulnerable and the concept of seeing you getting excited or even moved at slaying a dragon may make you lose any sexual credibility and make you less of a man.

I've had women gamers in my games for years, and have never heard this one before.

So basically, male gamers are so much more in touch with our feminine side whilst gaming - so emotional, so passionate - that we are afraid of letting women see us be so vulnerable?

You're fairly young I would guess...

The point I am making is that I know from first hand experience with my boyfriend that gamers love what they do with a passion so why are you ashamed of it?

I really don't personally know any gamers who fit that stereotype. I am certainly proud of all my hobbies, D&D included. Now, this doesn't mean that I walk around all the time carrying my PHB and wearing a Dragon t-shirt anymore than I walk around carrying my bike and wearing a Lance Armstrong t-shirt.

On the flip side, I'm also a thirty-something married gaming guy, and have long since come to terms with who and what I am. Not sure how old your boyfriend and company are, but maturity does have a lot to do with that too.

As sweet (and naive) as this comment was, I would'nt dream of playing with a group of his friends as I would surely get laughed at, patronisingly patted on my head and may even get called "rookie" or asked to get make the drinks.

But you *are* a rookie - and like any club or organization, there can be a "hazing" period where you will be the one pointed at while everyone snickers and calls you "rookie" to some extent. I discourage that at my table, and actually probably spend more time patronizing the rules lawyer who's played for 20+ years when she finally gets a rule wrong!

I would suggest that if you still can't see playing with your boyfriend, to find another group to get your feet wet. Reading the rules is okay, but sitting in on a few games makes all the difference in the world. Go out and play some and come back to your boyfriend's group not as a rookie, but as an experienced player. Don't miss out on your opportunity for enjoyment, and maybe just take the chance in expanding your boyfriend's views at the same time.

 

[Vraille Darkfang]

Hazing:

I don't "Haze" new players. They are there to learn & have a good time. Not for Us to have a good time at their expense.

New players are going to screw up enough on their own without people (including the DM), making it easier for them.

Welcome them to the game, help them understand the rules & have fun.

Leave the paddles to the frat boys.

 

[Elf Witch]

Since I pretty much qualify as this (mid 20s, overweight, wears sci-fi/geek t-shirts). I'd say I look like this because...well, I'm overweight and I like sci-fi and geek slogans.

I could probably go on a diet, do huge amounts of exercise and try to slim down while switching to more stylish clothes and try to go out and do less geeky things. Then again, if I did, I wouldn't be me anymore.

Yes, I have to deal with the consequences. This means a lot of people will write me off just by seeing me. That is their loss. But to make it sound like I have a psychological problem because I happen to look like this makes it sound like there is "normal" and everyone who doesn't try to fit into it is wrong.

Anyways, this is off topic and I think I'll post it as a seperate thread.

You misread my post I am not talking about someone who wears tshirts and likes SF. I was talking about someone who does not bathe, can't hold a job or does not see the need to hold a job because it might interfere with gaming and has no clue what is going on in the real world then yes I do think that person has a deep problem.

 

[Doc_Souark]

You misread my post I am not talking about someone who wears tshirts and likes SF. I was talking about someone who does not bathe, can't hold a job or does not see the need to hold a job because it might interfere with gaming and has no clue what is going on in the real world then yes I do think that person has a deep problem.

Anyone who pursues an activity be it gameing, drugs or whatever , and excludes normal life (family, a job, bathing) has a problem and if thier a gamer it reflects badly on the rest of us.