I m a girl get over it

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

It's been mentioned before in this thread, but you may want to check out www.randomlingshouse.com The site's hostess, Randomling, is from London. The site includes a "Girl's Talk" forum for female gamers only (which one of the Admin's can give you permissions to once you register). The whole idea of the site actually grew out of a thread that Randomling started here two-and-a-half years ago expressing similar frustrations as you have.

Thanks I will do

 

[Rel]

What if we kill you, then reanimate your corpse, so you're caugh UNdead in a hivemind thread? Would that be acceptable?

That would be fine of course. Just don't let me run around as a naked zombie. I always have a tendency to take my clothes off when I'm dead. Must be a loss of inhibitions or something.

 

[Melkor]

I wish the gaming demographic was like what you see in magazine ads, the few gaming tv commercials there have been, and the "examples of play" found in several RPGs....an even mix of girls and guys. Unfortunately, it's not.

In the 18 years I have played (started when I was 11 or 12), I've pretty much kept with the same core gaming group - with a couple of players coming and going during that time. We've only had two girls that were ever interested in joining (even though we have all tried, at one point or another, to get our significant others to give it a go), and they were great players.

Travelling to various game stores on game nights, talking to people at conventions/school/work, and sharing stories with other gamers - I have just accepted that there are a lot fewer women in gaming than men. Like I said, I wish the demographics were different. Maybe then, the stereotype would change, and the attitude directed at women who DO play RPGs would change especially women that are *gasp* attractive, and[/] who play RPGs.

 

[tetsujin28]

My original reason for writing this drivel was that girls seemed to get a severe mocking when it comes to having an interest in Dnd.

And boys don't? Seriously, I've known gamer girls since the '70s.

 

[I'm A Banana]

I always have a tendency to take my clothes off when I'm dead.

*wistles innocently*
*puts it in his sig*

BWAHAHAHAHAHAAH!

I agree there!

SWEET! Now to walk to England from Wisconsin! I can do it! Oceans freeze like every other type of water out there, right?

 

[Empress]

I got sidetracked for a second there
My original reason for writing this drivel was that girls seemed to get a severe mocking when it comes to having an interest in Dnd.
I sit in my front room nearly every other day reading Ben's MM and pretty much every piece of literature he has on the subject. We have been together for a while now so it is not some failed attempt to impress him it is genuinely because I fine the whole subject fascinating.
I listen to him talk for hours on the phone about encounters he has had and his party members feats and I listen in awe.
What bugs me is why whenever girls talk about DnD or claim they know someting related to it we get laughed at!
Its like a no go area and having testosterone is your members only card.
My boyfriend recently posted a thread about gaming and girlfriends and my interest in it and someone wisely suggested that he should let me play at one of his games and get me actively participating.
As sweet (and naive) as this comment was, I would'nt dream of playing with a group of his friends as I would surely get laughed at, patronisingly patted on my head and may even get called "rookie" or asked to get make the drinks.

Sorry for barging in late, but I believe I was the one who made that suggestion. All I can say is if you stereotype your boyfriend and his friends, you can't at the same time complain about their stereotyping.
On the other hand, I can understand if you feel awkward barging into what seems like a typical boys' club. And maybe you're right, and your boyfriend's group wants to be just like that, too. Maybe they aren't interested in female players.
The point is, there are enough groups who don't mind female players, and who don't mind relative rookies. Look for one of those. And maybe your boyfriend's group is one of those groups, without either one knowing. But you'd have to put that to the test, first.

In the end, though, I just hope you have fun and find a game. There can't be enough of us gamer girls, so any addition is welcome.

 

[Kuld]

I don't know if this helps but I tried to get my wife into playing D&D. She played once and said that she had a great time. Well, that was two years ago now. Although she says that she really wants to play again, she gives me grief when I go and play with my group. She knows that she is more than welcome to play with us. Well, now we’ll have to find a baby sitter of course.

 

[Turanil]

"I m a girl get over it"

Look at all the answers you've got with a thread titled "I m a girl get over it"

Now just imagine what it would have been if the title had been "I m a girl get over ME" (Sorry for grandma...)

 

[Vraille Darkfang]

Friendly Advice to Scratched Back,

Girlfriend 5 months pregant,

Posts to website full of (some of us), desperate "geeks" saying they are cool & how she loves roleplaying.

Mahaps this is a hint to begin your "Quest for One Ring to Bind Them All"?

Just sayin,

 

[Majoru Oakheart]

When I see gamers who are in the mid 20s who fit the sterotype I have to wonder why. Is it a psychological problem that stops them from being able to fit into mainstream society or is that they don't want to. Is it a badge of honor they wear. Society didn't let them fit in when they were teen agers so why should they bother to try and fit in now, It is the principle that counts.

Since I pretty much qualify as this (mid 20s, overweight, wears sci-fi/geek t-shirts). I'd say I look like this because...well, I'm overweight and I like sci-fi and geek slogans.

I could probably go on a diet, do huge amounts of exercise and try to slim down while switching to more stylish clothes and try to go out and do less geeky things. Then again, if I did, I wouldn't be me anymore.

Yes, I have to deal with the consequences. This means a lot of people will write me off just by seeing me. That is their loss. But to make it sound like I have a psychological problem because I happen to look like this makes it sound like there is "normal" and everyone who doesn't try to fit into it is wrong.

Anyways, this is off topic and I think I'll post it as a seperate thread.