I m a girl get over it

[Jolly Giant]

Welcome to ENWorld, Solar!

Terribly sorry to hear about your problems, though. It sounds like you are really into the game, and you havn't even got a chance to try it... :\ Forgive me for saying so, but yor boyfriend and his friends sound real immature! How old are they anyway???

I'm glad my group isn't like your boyfriend's! We currently have only one female member (my girlfriend), but when we play RPGs gender is completely irrelevant. The rest of the group has girlfriends too (even though we're all geeks! ), but only one who plays RPGs, and she is currently studying in another town. I'm guessing (and hoping) she'll join the group once she's completed her studies, though.

I'm sure you would love D&D if you just got a chance to play! Couples' games can be fun; when I introduced MY girlfriend to D&D it was a game with two other couples. Maybe you and your boyfriend could try to find another couple or two to play with? Perhaps he wouldn't be so negative to you playing if he could still get to keep his 'boys only'-nights.

 

[dungeon blaster]

You make it sound like being a "geek" was because that was the only group left and we had to join it, sorta like being picked last for the sports team as a kid. I never felt that way. I dunno. Maybe I wasn't enough of a geek, but I moved in all kinds of social circles in high school. Maybe my high school was also unusual in that all the A/P type classe and other "advanced" studies were also frequented by the preppy "queen bee" crowd. As for liking D&D, fantasy/sci-fi and all that, I've been that way as long as I can remember; certainly even before starting kindergarten I was fascinatined with the fantastic.

It depends. For some geeks, it may be a lack of social skills. For others, it may simply be an interest in activities traditionally defined as geeky. There's a mixture of both types of geeks, although it's usually easy to tell them apart.

Ever notice that when your go to a restaurant, the waiter almost always gives the bill to the guy, even if the girl is going to pay or appears more successful?

Someone mentioned that attractive girls are not taken seriously. There's some evidence to back that up, but I would say any disadvantages attractive girls have are more than made up for by the advantages. What advantages? Beautiful people are universally viewed as more intelligent, more interesting, more talented, more (insert good quality). If you're ugly, don't go claiming discrimination quite yet, it's not likley to get you anywhere.

 

[MojoGM]

Whatever happened to Dragongirl or Djeta? They just disappeared.

Well, I can answer part of that question. Djeta has been spending a lot of time on the Disneyworld message boards planning our next trip (at the end of May). She has tried to log on to the boards at work (she and I work together) but for some reason this site is extremely slow on our work computers.

Next week she's starting a new job where she will have less time during the day to peruse the net (I'm staying at the same company, but even I've had less time to read ENWORLD lately).

Usually when we get home we don't get a chance to use our computers, so she doesn't get to post much.

I imagine she'll be back though, we still game every other weekend and she always asks about interesting threads that go on here.

 

[arwink]

I was thinking more of the male gamers just talking loudly, competing for attention, and ignoring the female gamer. I've even seen this w my wife who's pretty assertive (admittedly the guys were _Australians_)

Hey They were Austrlaians in the UK - that's an entirely different breed from those that stay back home.

 

[Scratched_back]

Terribly sorry to hear about your problems, though. It sounds like you are really into the game, and you havn't even got a chance to try it... :\ Forgive me for saying so, but yor boyfriend and his friends sound real immature! How old are they anyway??? I'm glad my group isn't like your boyfriend's!

I'm 21. Now and again my friends come over and we make fun of my girlfriend because it pleases us. Occasionally I make her wear small underwear and a dog collar and she spends the night bringing us beers and snacks.

Frankly, he needs to get over this "little dig" or else he might jeopardize the whole relationship due to his being an ass about it.

Yeah you're right, I AM willing to jeapordise my relationship over D&D. I mean I do love her, live with her and she is five months pregnant with our child... but I don't care as long as I hit ninth level! I'll just keep gaming and ignoring her eh? Roll on XP!

Oh wait, hang on. That'd be stupid, just like assumptions generally are.

 

[GravyFingerz]

I'm 21. Now and again my friends come over and we make fun of my girlfriend because it pleases us. Occasionally I make her wear small underwear and a dog collar and she spends the night bringing us beers and snacks.

What, is she a japanese girl?

Yeah you're right, I AM willing to jeapordise my relationship over D&D. I mean I do love her, live with her and she is five months pregnant with our child... but I don't care as long as I hit ninth level! I'll just keep gaming and ignoring her eh? Roll on XP!

Ninth level is overrated. Now 12th level - thats the sweet spot.

 

[dungeon blaster]

You must play 2ed...9th level took forever to reach.

 

[Elf Witch]

I never once mentioned I was attractive or ugly or anything about that. If you think I'm attractive that is your opinion.The only thing I ever said was that I did'nt look like a typical gamer. Someone commented on how I mentioned how I looked and a big debate arose as to what I do look like. I posted the 'bikini' picture because o f the on going joke about chain mail bikini's. I shouldn't be slated because I look a certain way and neither should you. I'm deeper than a puddle and I don't believe that life is all about looks. This thread has strayed galaxies away from my enitial point.

What I find really rather interesting is that almost everyone else who has posted assumed the same thing that you were saying that part of the problem was that you were attractive. One poster wondered if you were bragging. You yourself used the word cheerleader as in people would asume that it would be something you would be more interested in. Now when one thinks of cheerleaders one usually thinks of a well toned pretty girl.

You also said that you are a girl who does not "look" like she would know anything about gaming. What does a girl who would be interested in gaming look like? As far as I know we don't have a uniform.

You say you don't believe life is about looks that's great because it should not be.

I am not saying that you don't have a valid point and these guys are not jerks. There are guys out there who don't like the idea of female gamers. There are morons who think women cannot ever be as smart as a guy.

But to be honest your post really got my back up. Go back and read it and see if you can see why.

 

[MojoGM]

I haven't been much aroudn to, but didn't Djeta had a bf or husband around here too?

*raises hand* Yup, the bf would be me. I'm still here, still reading all the threads but rarely posting (and rarely remembering to log in even).

Djeta usually asks me what's going on here or reads over my shoulder (and tries to get me to post more...can't say for sure why I don't...)

This is an interesting discussion though, enough to bring me out of lurk mode.

I'll have to tell Djeta about this thread, I'm sure she'd agree with Sarajaine on this one.

Oh, by the way, Hi Sarajaine. Welcome to the boards!

 

[fusangite]

I'm 21. Now and again my friends come over and we make fun of my girlfriend because it pleases us. Occasionally I make her wear small underwear and a dog collar and she spends the night bringing us beers and snacks.

Yeah you're right, I AM willing to jeapordise my relationship over D&D. I mean I do love her, live with her and she is five months pregnant with our child... but I don't care as long as I hit ninth level! I'll just keep gaming and ignoring her eh? Roll on XP!

Oh wait, hang on. That'd be stupid, just like assumptions generally are.

Hey -- you and your friends aren't looking good enough on this thread right now for you to pull off this joke. Maybe you should tell people what's actually going on before anybody really runs with this flippant response.

Actually, that goes for both of you. But then that's okay too... we're cutting you some slack for your youth.