Unfortunately in this case my 'table' is an online server with hundreds playing at any one time, and a large team of volunteer DMs running events and ensuring rules and broader RP expectations are adhered to, and therein lies the problem; new folk come through every day, and their expectations of the Forgotten Realms are sometimes wildly different to the older players, for whom a 'monster' walking into a tavern is akin to one of the Nazgul popping by the Shire for second breakfast.
And it's not just players - DMs, depending on their generation may feel differently about this too.
As the years roll on it increasingly feels like it's a lot of greybeards shouting 'NO! IT ISN'T HOW WE DID IT IN OUR DAY!'
I personally have the feeling that beyond the post spellplague timeline, or the D&D edition something quite fundamental has changed in regard how most fans like to play the game, and sooner or later I have to adapt to that.
And rather than setting a bomb off in my own forums/discord by raising the topic I thought this would be an ideal place to get a feeling for just how the larger fandom felt about it.
And thanks so much for all the replies!