D&D 4E Is 4E causing you marital/relationship strife?

[drothgery]

Defying gamer stereortypes, "No. I have no S.O. " is not the most popular option.

 

[Jarrod]

Whew, at least it wasn't a gnome!

jh

My wife is really enjoying her gnome druid character. Don't tell her about 4e!

 

[Drammattex]

Defying gamer stereortypes, "No. I have no S.O. " is not the most popular option.

I think we can thank Peter Jackson for that.

 

[pawsplay]

I'm single now by choice. But most relationships I've dated haven't been affected by D&D or the amount of money and time I spend on it (my favorite and main hobby).

That said, I do hide my books before I bring a new girl over. D&D is something that requires a little tact to admit to.

Bah. Nerd girls are hotter.

 

[dmccoy1693]

RPGs in general give me relationship problems. I ended up breaking up with two girlfriends in a row because they wanted me to choose between role playing and them. Frankly, I didn't have much in common with either them and role playing really was just the straw that broke the camel's back, But I still find it funny that I choose a game over them.

Now I only date role playing women and I haven't looked back since.

 

[dmccoy1693]

Bah. Nerd girls are hotter.

QFMFT!!!

 

[Aage]

Have no S.O. Really would like to meet one of those gamer girls everyone keeps talking about. My last gf called me a seven year old because I like D&D and warhammer :\

Edit: Might cause me money problems though, as I have no job and live a poor students life

 

[Emirikol]

My wife understands that I have a "hobby" and she see's how pizzy I get when I don't get to game at least once a month, so she "encourages" me to do it. BTW, she get's tuesdays off 2x/month to go play in her Bunco group so it's not a big deal.

But another set of core books and all the supplements and all the crap that the DM typically has to purchase will be another chunk of change. Oh well, I can go without new work clothes again this year so that the kids can eat

jh

 

[Eridanis]

yes. but i have agreed with my wife not to buy anymore.

Sudden disturbance in the Force, millions of voices crying out, etc, etc...

It's more like, "you never buy anything for yourself anymore. Go get it!" "Isn't it coming out for Christmas, or something? Why don't you buy it?"

C'mon, December! Hey, wait a minute...

 

[dmccoy1693]

Have no S.O. Really would like to meet one of those gamer girls everyone keeps talking about. My last gf called me a seven year old because I like D&D and warhammer :\

Edit: Might cause me money problems though, as I have no job and live a poor students life

The secrets to dating one of the "mythical" gaming girl is 1) be proud to be a gamer. if you have an online profile, state it in there. Women that look down on gamers will stay away. When you discuss, "What do you do for fun?" You answer confidently, "I play role playing games." If you play D&D say so. Don't be shy or timid or like you're seeing approval. Women (and men too) like confidence. If you're proud to be who you are, that is a turn-on. Plan and simple, and 2) don't settle for women that just "tolerate" your "hobby." In the long run, if you date someone that you enjoy your past time with, that is something the two of you can do together. If she just tolerates it, eventually she'll either feel that she is competing for your time with it and will work (subtley or overtly) to get you to spend less and less time role playing. If she understands that you have your pastime and can respect that, then no worries.

Storytime: Last nongamer girl I dated, my gaming group had a party. Non-game related, just a time for us all to hang out, having fun doing other stuff and bring the girlfriends. My girlfriend and one of the other girlfriends met at that party. They went off and discussed how do they get us away from the role playing game. I kid you not, these were some of their ideas they came up with and later tried (one of the other GFs over heard this and later told us about it): 1) More sex and better sex if we don't go to game. As in they would plan a "spontanious" weekend of staying in bed and do things they would not normally do and all we had to do was not goto game. Sounds tempting, yes? Now try explaining to your gaming group why you cancelled game with less then 1 hour until its suppose to start 3 sessions in a row. How fast do you think you get booted out of the game? And do you think that better sex would last if you did quit game for the woman? No. 2 weeks after your choose her over them and you'll be wondering where the good sex went. 2) Appeal to our sense of wanting to be "the man" and take care of her. Call us during game and say, "I need you here to do _____ right away." Be it comfort because she's "scared" or mr fix it and relight the pilot light that just "happened" to go out, or etc. 3) there was another, but I forget what it was. It wasn't done to me.

Disclaimer: Most women don't resort to this level of manipulation, but if she doesn't respect your hobby or views it as a threat, she'll try something.

I will be honest: You will date less, but you'll be happier with someone you share this pasttime with.

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