Is it fun being an adult?
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And on an artist-type note ... For some reason most artists don't get paid attention to unless they're over 30. "Hey, lookin' pretty good. Give yourself a few years and then we'll talk." This I have been told is a fairly common statement for those of us looking for work.
>_< So I guess I can't wait until I'm over 30, maybe then I'll be able to get more work more often!
And on an artist-type note ... For some reason most artists don't get paid attention to unless they're over 30. "Hey, lookin' pretty good. Give yourself a few years and then we'll talk." This I have been told is a fairly common statement for those of us looking for work.
>_< So I guess I can't wait until I'm over 30, maybe then I'll be able to get more work more often!
It wasn't at first.
Life lost all meaning when I hit adulthood. I'd compare it to realizing that there is no Santa or Easter Bunny. Adult life was eating, sleeping, doing uninteresting drone work, and paying the bills and taxes. Over and over, until you die. I had no religion to comfort me with the offer of a happy place after death. The idea of sharing the misery with someone, and bringing a child into it was horrifying.
I saw America as a consumer driven society. We're not people, not citizens; we are consumers. If we don't spend our money like idiots, the economy will collapse. But moving to another country would only prove that the grass is not greener anywhere else, there is no paradise to be found on the earth. Yet, I didn't want to live in a fantasy world like some lunatic bound for the insane asylum, or drink and drug myself numb. Upon becoming a real adult, I finally knew the ugly truth. There was no Santa.
So what's different now, what changed? What repainted the picture of life I described above into something interesting, and even fun?
*As I sit here writing this, I wonder if I should tell the answer. There was a lot of fun in discovering it for myself*
I should say a few things, but I think giving it away would be a bad choice. I don't want to sound like I'm quoting some worthless self-help book either.
I'll just answer your question. Yes, being an adult is fun. Life just keeps getting more and more interesting.
Like adults tend to do, I'll leave you with some advice. Take it for what it's worth. (it's free
)
Don't pursue things for the sake of security and life will be more fun. Security is like a mirage in the desert.
Time is definately not money. Remember that.
Oh yeah, there really is a Santa. How do you think your presents got under the tree?
Life lost all meaning when I hit adulthood. I'd compare it to realizing that there is no Santa or Easter Bunny. Adult life was eating, sleeping, doing uninteresting drone work, and paying the bills and taxes. Over and over, until you die. I had no religion to comfort me with the offer of a happy place after death. The idea of sharing the misery with someone, and bringing a child into it was horrifying.
I saw America as a consumer driven society. We're not people, not citizens; we are consumers. If we don't spend our money like idiots, the economy will collapse. But moving to another country would only prove that the grass is not greener anywhere else, there is no paradise to be found on the earth. Yet, I didn't want to live in a fantasy world like some lunatic bound for the insane asylum, or drink and drug myself numb. Upon becoming a real adult, I finally knew the ugly truth. There was no Santa.
So what's different now, what changed? What repainted the picture of life I described above into something interesting, and even fun?
*As I sit here writing this, I wonder if I should tell the answer. There was a lot of fun in discovering it for myself*
I should say a few things, but I think giving it away would be a bad choice. I don't want to sound like I'm quoting some worthless self-help book either.
I'll just answer your question. Yes, being an adult is fun. Life just keeps getting more and more interesting.
Like adults tend to do, I'll leave you with some advice. Take it for what it's worth. (it's free
)Don't pursue things for the sake of security and life will be more fun. Security is like a mirage in the desert.
Time is definately not money. Remember that.
Oh yeah, there really is a Santa. How do you think your presents got under the tree?
Raging Epistaxis
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WHAT!?!?No Name said:
Them's fightin' words...
Adulthood? Depending on what you're focused on it's either highly overrated, highly underrated or somewhere in between. As the previous responses to this thread suggest.
Personally, being an adult is nothing like what I would have said it would be like if you had asked a teenage me. But that's not saying it's bad. Life is good.
I agree with several earlier (and very wise) posters: Attitude is key. Everyone is dealt different flavors of the same sh.. uh, stuff. Drudgery and ecstacy happen all the time. What you focus on is what you remember and it colors your perceptions.
I'd ramble on more, but I believe Mr. Stebbins as put it as eloquently as I could hope.
And, while the more 'adult' aspect of adult relationships (i.e. Sex) is great, if you focus entirely on sexual relations for fulfillment, you will most likely be disappointed.
And suffer horrible wasting diseases, parts rotting off, and non-healing pus filled ulcers. But I digress...
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DaveStebbins
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Raging Epistaxis said:
Thank you for your kind words.Just like if you are in a relationship but go for years without...Raging Epistaxis said:
-Dave
(trust me on that last one)
Raging Epistaxis
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Heh. Yeah that's true. Been there, didn't do that...DaveStebbins said:
Apollonian virtue, baby: Everything in moderation!
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DaveStebbins said:
Hey! We share a birthday. I turned 36...
Adults... Good lord. Probably nothing that hasn't been said. I never really grew up, but being an adult has been a great ride. All the bills and hard work and relationship problems pale in comparison to just being able to sit still and understand what's going on around you and more importantly Knowing Yourself. I spent the first 10 years of my life seeking and finding, in small increments, who I was. Knowing that has me contented and knowing that I have so much more to learn. This is accelorated by having kids. Someone earlier said that you have to put your dreams on hold for 21+ years, but really, your dreams just morph and crystalize. All the shallow stupid dreams (lots of money, famous, etc) go away and are replaced by ones that are much more important (building a better human, becoming competent in a trade, feeling good about yourself). Not as flashy, but definitely more important.
The sex is great.
I get to do what I want. Well, I have a girlfriend and a baby so it's not quite as easy as it used to be. But she's pretty cool and my baby rocks. I still feel like quitting jobs and moving to another state or country every 2 months though.
Friday afternoon and I'm babbling. Yeah it's all fun unless you forget it's fun.
Aaron
I get to do what I want. Well, I have a girlfriend and a baby so it's not quite as easy as it used to be. But she's pretty cool and my baby rocks. I still feel like quitting jobs and moving to another state or country every 2 months though.
Friday afternoon and I'm babbling. Yeah it's all fun unless you forget it's fun.
Aaron
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