Squire James
Explorer
If I had more grappling monsters, I'd probably do the following:
1. No size bonus to grapple checks.
2. No creature can start a grapple on someone more than 1 size level larger than himself.
3. If starting a grapple on someone larger than himself, apply a -4 penalty to grapple check.
4. The penalty for a large creature holding a smaller one without being treated as grappled is reduced to -10 if one size larger, -4 if 2 sizes larger, or -2 if 3 or more sizes larger. Multiple creatures can be held in this way by taking the penalty multiple times. Grappling a creature of any size will deprive the large monster of one natural attack form (which is presumably being used by the monster to restrain the grappled creature).
5A. Touch attacks always use Dex bonus instead of Str bonus. This applies to all touch attacks unless they want to touch as part of a natural or unarmed attack (which would only work for melee touch spells if "holding the charge").
OR (AND if you want to emphasize small creatures in your game)
5B. Double size bonuses/penalties to AC against touch attacks.
1. No size bonus to grapple checks.
2. No creature can start a grapple on someone more than 1 size level larger than himself.
3. If starting a grapple on someone larger than himself, apply a -4 penalty to grapple check.
4. The penalty for a large creature holding a smaller one without being treated as grappled is reduced to -10 if one size larger, -4 if 2 sizes larger, or -2 if 3 or more sizes larger. Multiple creatures can be held in this way by taking the penalty multiple times. Grappling a creature of any size will deprive the large monster of one natural attack form (which is presumably being used by the monster to restrain the grappled creature).
5A. Touch attacks always use Dex bonus instead of Str bonus. This applies to all touch attacks unless they want to touch as part of a natural or unarmed attack (which would only work for melee touch spells if "holding the charge").
OR (AND if you want to emphasize small creatures in your game)
5B. Double size bonuses/penalties to AC against touch attacks.