Its so disappointing that Alex did all this. Illusion broken.
Why are we trying to read her mind? If she wanted it used, I think she would have said so, clearly, since as you point out she wasn't timid. IMO, consent shouldn't need to be interpreted, even when we want to honour someone. "She didn't say no" is not the same as consent.Jennell Jaquays was not timid about things that annoyed her. If she didn’t want her name associated with it at all I think she would have made it very clear publicly.
While I think that the linked blog post is perhaps extremely uncharitable towards Alexander, it is true that his 2016 post "On Deadnaming" and his refusal for an additional two years until Jennell reached out personally to ask him to stop deadnaming her was, if probably not in nearly as bad faith and it's presented here, still incredibly wrong-headed and ignorant, and that was just as much true when he posted it in 2016 as here in 2024, where he's on Twitter standing by it.
I don't think anybody can (rightfully) accuse Alexander of out and out transphobia or bigotry of any kind, as acerbic as he can be he's nearly always been on the side of social justice, but this was a bad look then and his current attempts to defend it are a bad look now.
I was never gonna stop, I did think it was weird how it missed the s. It's not even really something that comes up much in my day-to-day dnd life, only shows up in places like ENworld. I'm kind of curious if I brought it up with my game groups if they'd have any idea what I was talking about.I think I will stick to calling Jaquaysing the dungeon.
Her name was Jennell.Thinking about it, I think the original blog post was the first time I'd even heard of Jenna Jaquays.