Rackhir said:
Telling them that the rules are different is not the same as telling them what the rules are. There is a implied contract between the players and the DM, that there are rules that the game is played by. Changing those rules without even mentioning that they have been changed, violates that implied agreement as far as I am concerned.
You do have the right to change the rules as you see fit, but I do feel quite strongly that you have an obligation to at least inform them that things are not going to be standard and to make it clear that they are not going to know what they are.
I absolutely agree with this.
Originally posted by Lord Pendragon
I suppose I simply don't see it as metagaming for a player/PC to know the rules of the game. I see the rules as the "physics"....the "laws of reality" of my world. Those are things they should know. Now specifics, such a whether a certain were-rat clan is vulnerable to silver, or perhaps cold iron due to their fae blood, are my pervue. But the basic rules of the game belong to the players as much as the DM.
I can't agree with this more.
Originally posted by DocMoriartty
I dont agree because these are rules that players should not know as rules.
I know already that this will, more than likely, get me flamed, reference the last paragraph in such a situation.
This smells of 100% hi-test DM power trip arrogance.
Almost without fail, every time I have encountered a DM that demands that the DMG and MM remain off limits to players, that DM clearly either wants to "win the game", or "needs" to be in total control for some personal reason.
In the first sceanrio, the players only know the rules in the PHB, but the DM knows all the rules and it turns into the DM using his math to beat down the players.
In the second scenario, the DM demands control over virtually all aspects of the game, arbitrarily decides the fates of the players, and expects all his decisions to go unchallenged.
I don't handle my PCs with kid gloves, but I don't suck the joy out of the game for them either. I'm not god, I'm just a friend that likes to play the same game they do. I don't own it, and neither do they. The simple fact is; If I walk away, there's no more game and if they walk away, there's no more game. If people are playing for fun like they should be, these issues over who should know what usually don't come up. When people are playing to satisfy some deep-seated neurotic desire however...
Not that I'm saying you're doing any of this, just that your words remind me of things I've seen before from other DMs.

I will be the first to admit that most of the gamers I met back in the day were not exactly the creme of the community, nor were they posterboys for well-grounded emotional health.