Love and gaming

[Olaf the Stout]

Same boat as Olaf... only I have two sons who will hopefully pickup my love of gaming. I just have to wait a while, they are only an infant and a toddler at the moment.

No kids at the moment but I'm hoping to "grow my own gaming group" so to speak. I figure if the kid become interested in it the wife won't have any choice but to join in!

On a more serious note, I don't plan to force my children to do anything. If they show an interest in gaming I won't discourage it but I don't plan to be one of those "pushy" parents that decide what their children will and won't like.

Olaf the Stout

 

[rgard]

I'd love it if my wife was interested in gaming. I think that pigs will fly before that ever happens though! She just doesn't have the interest in fantasy or the attention span that's needed. Heck, I've had enough difficulty finding a 2-player board game that is strategic enough for me but simple enough for her.

Oh well, I could think of a lot worse problems than her not liking gaming.

Olaf the Stout

Same boat here. Wife hates D&D and gaming in general. Come to think of it, she hates me too.

Now I'm depressed.

Thanks,
Rich

 

[Shadowsmith]

I met my wife in the Commons at the University of Alaska Anchorage. I was a returning student (age 30) and she was traditional freshman. We started talking and eventually the topic of gaming came up. As we were both currently without a group, I started up an Al-Qadim game.

The first session of the game was about two weeks later. I had become seriously interested, but was being careful. Then it happened. The party of three second level PCs had gotten hold of the spellbook of a 5th level flame wizard. The flame wizard was invisible and everyone was in a large room and spread out. The wizard, a very vain and vindictive woman, ordered the PC with the book to put it down or she would kill one of them. When the PC said, "Go ahead!" I sighed internally and looked at my future wife and said, "Sorry. You take X fire damage." Sadly my future wife was playing a very attractive sha'ir with a water gen and so was the perfect target.

But it turns out killing her character made her fall in love with me. Crazy world we live in isn't it? We've been together nine years now and married for five and a half of them. We still game together and I still DM most of the time. And, yes, I still kill her characters from time to time.

 

[Olaf the Stout]

Same boat here. Wife hates D&D and gaming in general. Come to think of it, she hates me too.

Now I'm depressed.

Thanks,
Rich

Sorry!

Olaf the Stout

 

[Olaf the Stout]

I met my wife in the Commons at the University of Alaska Anchorage. I was a returning student (age 30) and she was traditional freshman. We started talking and eventually the topic of gaming came up. As we were both currently without a group, I started up an Al-Qadim game.

The first session of the game was about two weeks later. I had become seriously interested, but was being careful. Then it happened. The party of three second level PCs had gotten hold of the spellbook of a 5th level flame wizard. The flame wizard was invisible and everyone was in a large room and spread out. The wizard, a very vain and vindictive woman, ordered the PC with the book to put it down or she would kill one of them. When the PC said, "Go ahead!" I sighed internally and looked at my future wife and said, "Sorry. You take X fire damage." Sadly my future wife was playing a very attractive sha'ir with a water gen and so was the perfect target.

But it turns out killing her character made her fall in love with me. Crazy world we live in isn't it? We've been together nine years now and married for five and a half of them. We still game together and I still DM most of the time. And, yes, I still kill her characters from time to time.

You killed your future wife's character in the first session you played together and that's what made her fall in love with you?!!

I guess sometimes you just luck out.

Olaf the Stout

 

[rgard]

Sorry!

Olaf the Stout

No worries!!!

Thanks,
Rich

 

[mhacdebhandia]

My fiancee is a gamer. When we first met in 2000, she was playing in a Gotham City Police Department collaborative-story roleplaying game on alt.comics.batman, but she didn't get interested in tabletop gaming until we got together - after we broke up in early 2002, she got involved in a D&D game with her older brother and his friends, and stuck around for a new game after her brother stole the DM's girlfriend and the first campaign collapsed - another aspect of "love and gaming".

When we got back together in late 2004, she ended up sucking me into World of Warcraft and we both belonged to a guild run by her DM and his (new) girlfriend, at least until they merged us with a larger guild.

Since then, most of her gaming has been D&D one-shots that we've played with these guild leaders on my trips to visit her in California - in fact, the first one of these I ran was the first time the other guild leader had ever played D&D, despite her boyfriend's experience as a DM. They've been really good fun, but now that my fiancee's moved here to Sydney those days are pretty much over, which is a real shame.

Now that my fiancee is in Sydney, though, I'm going to start up a Savage Tide campaign in Eberron so that we can play with some of my friends from SUTEKH, the university gaming group with which I'm still involved. I'm lucky in that she's pretty much willing to try and play anything I'm interested in running.

We're also both getting back into World of Warcraft after a few months' hiatus now that the Burning Crusade expansion is coming out.

 

[Nyaricus]

My past girlfriendshave never been interested in gaming. One actually regularily ridiculed me, and didn't like it that my Saturday nights were taken up by gaming (even we went out most Fridays :\).

Having a girlfriend that gamed would be a huge bonus for me. D&D has, in part (along with two great teachers in grades 9 and 11, respectively) arisen an interest in history, culture and ancient religions for me that is leading me down my future job path. I plan to be a university professor of history, and I'm a huge nerd when it comes down to it. So, a supportive, active girlfriend who's into medieval fantasy would be amazing.

Of course, on the other hand, I'm a metalhead (and I'm getting a band together! ) So I'm just as likely to have a rocker-chick for a girlfriend who hates gaming as I am to have a gaming girlfriend who hates metal . Oh well

cheers,
--N

 

[Xyanthon]

No kids at the moment but I'm hoping to "grow my own gaming group" so to speak. I figure if the kid become interested in it the wife won't have any choice but to join in!

On a more serious note, I don't plan to force my children to do anything. If they show an interest in gaming I won't discourage it but I don't plan to be one of those "pushy" parents that decide what their children will and won't like.

Olaf the Stout

I have a son that is 2 1/2 and another little one on the way. I'm pretty sure my son will be interested in gaming to some extent but I'll not push it on him. I figure I'll wait until they are old enough to come to me and ask what it is all about. Then I'll explain and if they are interested, I'll share it with them.

 

[BOZ]

i've rarely gamed with my wife. which is disappointing, since she's told me that she used to game regularly with her ex-bf.

actually ran into him at gencon last year... awkward to say the least. she was almost convinced that she never wanted to go to GC again for fear of running into him again and getting angry.

but yeah, i'd like to game with her at home sometime. just need to set up a scenario, and see if we can get the 11-year old daughter on board...

she'd come out with me on game nights, except that we have a 1 1/2 year old, and no babysitter.