love the unloveable

[Mann Gegen Mann]

i agree

"What it all boils down to is that you have to find someone with whom you share common interests."
an agreeable statement

 

[Umbran]

But don't be friends with them. I made that mistake and now they can't see me as boyfriend material. They categorize you.

And apparently we stereotype them pretty strongly too...

Honestly, "they" are people. And each one will behave as they will. For every one you find that fits a predicted behavior, you'll find one who doesn't too.

My wife and I were merely friends for years before we started dating, and we're quite happily married now.

 

[The Thayan Menace]

Juke Joint Jezebel?

Dude, just remember ... hot chicks dig industrial music.

Rammstein Über Alles!


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[Mann Gegen Mann]

Dude, just remember ... hot chicks dig industrial music.

Rammstein Über Alles!

harharhar... that's funny​

 

[Ranger REG]

Honestly, "they" are people. And each one will behave as they will. For every one you find that fits a predicted behavior, you'll find one who doesn't too.

Yet, she's not in my circle of "friends." I checked. Not even one of them tried to use the pity excuse, "Aww, you should have asked me out."

 

[Sidekick]

How old are you Mann Gegen Mann?

because if you're still at school then geuss what - you're not SUPPOSED to feel confortable around most of the girls at your school. Thats very, very normal. As for being snobby - I beleive the term is either aloof or 'mysterious'

Don't sweat it.

I'd suggest you get some friends who are female. That way not only do you a) have some new cool friends to hang out with but b) you'll get used to talking to women folk thus putting you at ease when you do meet a bird you really like and of course c) some people to ask for advice about clothing, what to do/not to do when you go on a date with said chick you like.

And as Umbran and many others will testify, often you can find love with a good friend. Can't do that if you've got no friends who fit your sexual preferences though...

My advice - relax, enjoy school (as much as is possible), make some great friends (male & female) and if you find a girl you really like then go for it.

The worst that will happen is she'll say no. It's not that big a deal...

 

[Umbran]

Yet, she's not in my circle of "friends."

Right now, she may not be. But, I didn't say you'd find the person immediately - that which is worth having is worth waiting for.

 

[kenobi65]

Mann, I'm going to guess that you're in high school.

When I was in high school, I had a lot of the same problems with girls...I couldn't get them to look my way. I admit, I was kind of nerdy at the time (well, actually, I still am), and many girls at that age may be a little superficial about what they're looking for in a boy. (To be fair...many *boys* at that age are probably a little superficial in what they're looking for in a girl...)

Might sound like a cliche, or something that you don't want to wait for...but don't decide that, because you've had no luck with girls as a teenager, that you never will.

Things *can* change with time. I dated several girls throughout college (was convinced I was going to marry one of them), and, after graduating, I did find a good woman who was very interested in a gaming geek. (After all, she's a gaming geek, too...)

 

[Arkham]

Maybe you need to find yourself a good man your self, i have girils as freinds but not in the eternel( or even anaywhere close)giril freinds.

No need to get snippy... But if you have forsworn girls, then that doesn't leave a whole lot of options.

However, if you are indeed still interested in them, but having a lack of luck, then perhaps you are trying too hard? View them as people, since they are first and foremost just people. And treat them as you would want to be treated. If you get all weird around them, then they'll start to think you are creepy. And ignore the advice someone else said about avoiding becoming friends. It is much easier to show people the real you if you can be friends with them first. And if you aren't willing to be someone's friend, then why would they want you to be more than a friend?

 

[werk]

I'm motivated to quote Shakespeare, because this is basically what I believe to be true and good advice to all people.

From Hamlet:
"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou cans't not be false to any man."

You must know yourself before you can know another.
You must love yourself before you can love another.
You must be true to yourself before you can be true to another.


As for snobby girls...I'd just ask them what's wrong.