My philosopy : Violence is not my favored course of action, but if you choose to take that course with me, you had best be a peace with your gods.
Hmm... Seems that your pals like hack&slash while you like the deep intrigue and acutal role-play. From what I've seen, the older you get, the more into role-play you get, since combat eventually becomes a sort of repetetive hell if that's all there is.
Another good reason to avoid combat when possible to time conservation. If you're a teen in today's world, you don't have a lot of time on your hands. That time must be used wisely. Unfortunately, combats take up huge amounts of time, even though they pass by in a flash. The more time you spend out of combat, the more time you have for the finer points of gaming.