Not-so happy Valentine's Day

Sidekick said:
My life as a unit of has begun... it'll take some getting used to but I'll get used to it eventually.

The final kick, of course, is that after going through all this, you end up in Wellington.

But best of luck.

-Hyp.
 

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This is what you call demarkation. You have the BEFORE time and the AFTER time (DC Comics fans have the Pre-Crisis and Post-Crisis). It's totally rough.

But, if you can use this as an opportunity to start a new chapter and re-invent yourself or follow goals that you weren't able to before. Do something different and begin a new life, and (as hard as it is) enjoy the change and try to see new prospects as much as you can. And game a lot!

Best of luck,

James
 

Hypersmurf said:
The final kick, of course, is that after going through all this, you end up in Wellington.

But best of luck.

-Hyp.
Hype – could be worse, could have to live in Auckland & become a JAFA.

But cheers for the sentiment.

Anyway, I've moved out and staying with one of the guys I game with and his wife. Its a nice place, if a little further out that I’m used to (for those who know London its South Ruislip, Zone 5). The real good thing is it’s their spare living area/gaming room. I got me a PS2, a DVD player, their gaming computer, AND my mates entire RPG book collection at my disposal.

NICE!

I’ve booked my ticket home and I’m saying goodbye to London on the 22nd of March, which I’ve just realised is only 3 weeks away! So much to do and so little time…
 

Need to Vent.

So I was goin ghome last night after training (I do Hapkido), I step onto the Jubilee Line (Tube line) and low and behold there is my ex.

With another guy. She was TOTALLY trying to avoid me seeing her, but of course she was a drunk and lousy at it. So I goe's over there thinking Who's this punk and boy do I want to hear his limbs break.

Turn's out he's her old team leader, who just finished with the company yesterday. Now I know roughly where he lives, and don't need to be going West on the Jubilee line. They then both get off at the station where you change to get to my old (now her) flat.

Nice.

She only managed to wait 5 days after I moved out before shacking up with someone. That's a nasty blow to the ego.

But now the fact that I never met her work mates suddenly makes sence.

Oh feeling sooo good about one's self right now...

[/end rant]
 
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How funny life is.

So I'm drunkand deciding to post here, because itf hthere;s one thing that Diaglo & Knightfall have taught me it's that posting drunk is a good idea.

I went out with my new house mates to meet upwith thie frinds who were doin the monopoly pub crawl (londoners will know how deadly that is).

So tonight I met one of teh coolest chicks I've ever seen. Sexy, redhead, succssful, intellegent, interesting and to top it all off (hype you'll see the downside of this - she's an aussie!).

In short a totally cool chick, and of course I had to meet her in the last 3 weeks that I'm in the country.

So I'm going to contact her to meet up for some theatre and drinks (hopefully some wink wink afterwards) on Firida,#

Things are looking up for Ben/Sidekick right about now.

But now it's time to go to sleep.

Drunken Ben signing off,

00Sidekicki
 

Sidekick said:
So tonight I met one of teh coolest chicks I've ever seen. Sexy, redhead, succssful, intellegent, interesting and to top it all off (hype you'll see the downside of this - she's an aussie!).

Has she been in London long enough to lose the accent?

-Hyp.
 


Sidekick said:
Nice.

She only managed to wait 5 days after I moved out before shacking up with someone. That's a nasty blow to the ego.

But now the fact that I never met her work mates suddenly makes sence.

Oh feeling sooo good about one's self right now...

[/end rant]
That sucks man. My ex from a couple years back was proposed to from some creepoid who flew in (to Canada) from England after only a few days after we split . She shot him down (thankfully), but still ended up going out with another guy only 3 weeks after that.

How odd life is, eh?

Hope things get better for you man :) And good luck on the ;);)

cheers,
--N
 

I've long since come to the conclusion that a good Valentine's Day is a myth perpetrated to sell cards, and candy.

If it helps you to feel any better, I've never not been single; I've have had two dates in my entire life, both at the age of 30, and that ended once the woman found out that she had been the first to ever agree to go on a date with me. I've lost a lot of respect for women; before I at least trusted them to be honest and decent, and actually had more respect for them than men (because most men I meet are brutish macho jerks), but I don't really have any trust for them left.

You'll have to forgive me, I'm probably just in another of my moods after spending another weekend alone in my bedroom watching movies, after every single person I asked to hang out with me decline for one feeble excuse or another, and most of them simply not answering my calls. Combining my impending 31st birthday on the 22nd with my total lack of any kind of relationship ever is making life pretty much unbearable.

I wish you good luck with that redhead you met. I'd like to think that at least someone out there is happy. I'm sorry I can't offer any reassurances that things will get better, because from my experience everything is downhill from the moment you first go to school.
 

Aaron L said:
I've long since come to the conclusion that a good Valentine's Day is a myth perpetrated to sell cards, and candy.

If it helps you to feel any better, I've never not been single; I've have had two dates in my entire life, both at the age of 30, and that ended once the woman found out that she had been the first to ever agree to go on a date with me. I've lost a lot of respect for women; before I at least trusted them to be honest and decent, and actually had more respect for them than men (because most men I meet are brutish macho jerks), but I don't really have any trust for them left.

You'll have to forgive me, I'm probably just in another of my moods after spending another weekend alone in my bedroom watching movies, after every single person I asked to hang out with me decline for one feeble excuse or another, and most of them simply not answering my calls. Combining my impending 31st birthday on the 22nd with my total lack of any kind of relationship ever is making life pretty much unbearable.

I wish you good luck with that redhead you met. I'd like to think that at least someone out there is happy. I'm sorry I can't offer any reassurances that things will get better, because from my experience everything is downhill from the moment you first go to school.

I hope you're feeling a little better now AaronL...

A few years ago I was a bit like that. The thing I realised was that women aren't, in fact all wonderful, caring beings. Some women are jerks. It just means they're human beings, really. There's good and bad in all cultures, genders, sexualities, and etc. It's human nature, and people make mistakes.

The important thing is... you shouldn't lose hope. It's too easy to get cynical or abrasive, and make it even harder to make connections with others. Does the world need another sad and bitter person with a grimace on their face? Stuff that! I'd rather have hope... I'd rather have a smile on my face.

If there's one thing I've learnt doing theatre, it's that even fake happiness... it's contagious, even to the one who's faking. Acting in a happy way, and being friendly? It doesn't take long for real happiness to happen, because people generally react well to positive-minded people.

You want things to be different with girls? You've got to swing the bat. Sometimes you'll miss... but if don't swing the bat, you'll never know what will happen... and there's something hollow about living like that. To me, anyway. Women... they aren't some homogenous group of automatons who all act the same way. There are many gentle souls out there... girls who are right for you and will be happy to live, love, and learn with you.

Lack of relationships? It's not good, surely... I think it's important to have your heart in a good place before starting relationships with people you want to be close to (particularly romantic relationships). It certainly could be a lot worse, though.

I've always found my biggest success in attracting interest (I admit, I haven't had a lot of long term relationships either, however) when I've been genuinely happy with my life, or at least working towards something. Ambition, conidence, happiness, thoughtfulness... they're all good qualities to have, in my opinion. If you don't believe, what is there for a girl to put her faith in?

I've no doubt there are large numbers of women who'd be interested in someone like you, should they get to know you. Might take some trial and error though, but like all things... it takes practice. As for spending a weekend watching movies by yourself... there's nothing wrong with that at all. But if you're not happy with that, maybe try an outside hobby if that's possible. Personally (now that I can afford it over a long term basis), I've decided to take up dance lessons (I'm gonna learn to Salsa) and tai chi (for fitness), to keep me busy over the weekend since I'm not gaming right now. I'm really loking forward to it, both for the activity and to meet new people. I'm trying to build new friendships outside of my existing circle of friends... mainly because you can never have enough friends, but also because (for me, at least) staves off the posssibility of stagnation. I hate it when I get all depressed and in a rut, you know?

What was all that rambling about? Sorry. :o I guess I'm trying to say.. try to do something new. At the very least, you can worry about something new. Hopefully though, you'll discover some joy in your new activity. If I don't see you around before then, happy birthday for the end of the month. :)

Anyway, good luck AaronL. As I said, I hope you're feeling at least a little better now.

---
And Side Kick,

Good luck with your Red-headed friend. I'm glad you've found someone who sounds intriguing and cool. :) Aussie.... you have good taste. ;)

I'm sure you'll have fun.
 

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