D&D General Of Consent, Session 0 and Hard Decisions.

[FrogReaver]

Even if that one person is traumatised by X, and the others are merely okay with it? Even if they're your friend and this is one of the main times you socialise with them?

Every circumstance and social dynamic is different.

Some people do in fact enjoy coercing others to do what they want and some do that under the guise of victimhood, by playing on others empathy. It’s a real thing. I’d say it’s a small small minority, but that’s why I can’t agree with a blanket policy of always doing X in such a situation. Such a policy can be abused.

That said I also am not keen on never making any accommodations, but there’s a point when the accommodations aren’t really reasonable anymore. That point is going to vary based on circumstances and social dynamics.

 

[Remathilis]

No one's forcing trauma on anyone in this situation. If one member of a group has a problem with something the rest of the group doesn't, why is the only moral solution that everyone else bends for that person?

So we are back to "sorry, arachnophobic friend, but I'm running City of the Spider Queen, so don't let the door hit you on the way out."

 

[Scribe]

So we are back to "sorry, arachnophobic friend, but I'm running City of the Spider Queen, so don't let the door hit you on the way out."

No, we are at a point where instead of the tyranny of the minority, we should all be asking ourselves to make the appropriate choice for ourselves, in the content we engage with, and not dump our trauma's off on others who just want to roll some dice.

 

[Remathilis]

No, we are at a point where instead of the tyranny of the minority, we should all be asking ourselves to make the appropriate choice for ourselves, in the content we engage with, and not dump our trauma's off on others who just want to roll some dice.

Sounds more like "I understand your concerns, I just don't care."

 

[FrogReaver]

So we are back to "sorry, arachnophobic friend, but I'm running City of the Spider Queen, so don't let the door hit you on the way out."

Is that any different than, “Sorry group but you will never run your spider queen adventure you’ve been really looking forward too”.

 

[Remathilis]

Is that any different than, “Sorry group but you will never run your spider queen adventure you’ve been really looking forward too”.

There are thousands of different modules out there, and infinite amounts of DM created scenarios. How many players do you have lined up that you can sacrifice them for one specific module?

 

[Scribe]

Sounds more like "I understand your concerns, I just don't care."

Hardly, it's just putting the responsibility on the only person it should be on. Me.

I've walked from games. I've walked from game nights. Take responsibility for yourself, its nobody elses job.

 

[Remathilis]

Hardly, it's just putting the responsibility on the only person it should be on. Me.

I've walked from games. I've walked from game nights. Take responsibility for yourself, its nobody elses job.

And we are back to "my way or highway"

I'm glad I play with people with empathy.

 

[Scribe]

And we are back to "my way or highway"

I'm glad I play with people with empathy.

"Hey Scribe, we are going to play X tonight, you down?"
"Nah, I hate that game, catch you next time."
"No problem!"

"Hey Scribe, this module has child abuse in it, fair warning."
"Ah, yeah I'll pass, let me know when the next one starts."
"Will do!"

Who's making the call here? Who's "my way" is it?

 

[Remathilis]

"Hey Scribe, we are going to play X tonight, you down?"
"Nah, I hate that game, catch you next time."
"No problem!"

"Hey Scribe, this module has child abuse in it, fair warning."
"Ah, yeah I'll pass, let me know when the next one starts."
"Will do!"

Who's making the call here? Who's "my way" is it?

Hey Scribe we're playing a module with horrible child abuse, you down?
Uh, I have a really bad time with that. Can see do something else?
Nope, sorry. That's ruining our fun for your selfish needs. Call you in a few months when we finish.

Vs

Hey Scribe we're playing a module with horrible child abuse, you down?
Uh, I have a really bad time with that. Can see do something else?
Sure. I guess we can run the one where you fight the Giant Lords instead.
Sounds great. I'll see you this weekend.