RobNJ said:This sort of gets at the crux of my question. Yes, it's good that women aren't passive victims and the like, but this uniformity of interest in women who for some reason must be physically superior to men is what I'm curious about. In some circles, the focus seems to be on the fact that you want this woman, and she can beat you up, and that's why you want her. I've seen the phrase in several genre publications, "Best of all, she can kick your ass!"
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And I do think it's good that these women aren't just victims. At the same time, most of them seem to have to suffer horribly in order to gain this traditionally male power. Max is subject to blinding eplieptic fits, everyone Buffy loves dies or has something horrible happen to them, by the end of the Alien series, Ripley is barely human, and so on.
I think ass-kicking is a pretty broad term ... I don't always equate ass-kicking with knocking out your teeth. For me it speaks more to holding your own, contributing to the group, being your own person. The women of Buffy for example are not all ass-kickers - but are all strong and individual characters who contribute more than just being people in peril to be rescued.
As for suffering - I think you have to separate that from the fact that they are female characters. If your main characters don't suffer in some way, be they male or female, then you don't really have a story. I doubt you'd find any strong literary character who doesn't suffer and struggle long and hard through the telling of their tale. We want them to rise above those hardships. If they didn't, why would we be watching?