but some forget Joan D'arc.
While martial and aggressive, she was also quite humble- a vessel for God's will- and remember, she was a peasant.
The last paladin I played was modeled after her. Byral Kahn was the only child of a fisherman, but she was extraordinarly robust- and soon grew too large to safely work her father's small boat and nets without capsizing it. Instead, she apprenticed out to a mason, and learned the way of stone and strength. Finally, this giantess of a girl heard the call of the divine. Her Uncle, a smith, made her armor, but for her weapons, she could not carry a sword as a commoner. Instead, she stayed with what she knew..the Pick and the Maul.
Be a leader by example, not by setting yourself above all others. This kind of paladin, instead of berating those around her as cowards, merely charges (or stands her ground), shaming others into actions by her deeds.