Fanaelialae
Legend
I think that you can absolutely have a pargon of virtue and justice who isn't required to be suicidally noble, provided that is the expectation at the table.What is the point of the paladin class?
Is it to evoke an archetype that has a history and a significance that extends back before PHB 1978, which Gygax et al drew upon?
Or is it to play a character within some technical boundaries which have no meaning beyond game rules to be complied with?
If the latter, then why is anyone in this thread talking about characters that were not constructed as game pieces to be played by those rules - such as Steve Rogers/Captain America?
If the former, then my comments about the importance of hope, and the avoidance of hubris, stand.
I do expect paladins at my table to be virtuous and just. I don't insist that they must be suicidally so, in large part because I don't generally provide deus ex machina bailouts if they behave as such. If, at my table, you want to suicide your paladin charging an unbeatable dragon then you're welcome to do so. You'll die, but maybe that's the ending you had in mind. If you decide instead to bide your time until you can round up a posse to deal with the evil beast, that's even better.