I think being critical of safety tools isn't the same as saying there should be no boundaries or saying that people are free to be jerks to one another. Obviously there are always social boundaries. And those are normally negotiated over time, something people achieve an understanding of with one another (you have some friends you may be comfortable slapping on the back for example and others you would not). I think with safety tools though, these go way beyond formalizing normal social boundaries and are claiming to be effective tools for mental health at the gaming table. Like I said before if someone in the group is having an issue, this isn't an argument to dismiss that person, to be cruel to them, or not try to get them the help they need. This is more of an argument that safety tools actually kind of minimize mental health issues. I think if you look at how they are changing the gaming culture, in my view at least, it is for the worst, and it is not beneficial to the people the tools are claiming to help, not is it beneficial to the other people at the table. It seems like they are actually making people worse, and making the people around them more neurotic in the process. When you have a serious issue like panic attacks and trauma, you can seriously negatively impact the people around you too. And tools to me seem like a recipe for giving someone who really needs help, tools that force other people to adjust their behavior, even walk around on eggshells around that person (I have been on both sides of this in my own life). I don't want to do a deep dive into it here (I did so in another discussion about safety tools). But I think when you have people checking off boxes like 'spiders' and 'bad weather' that really misses what is going on when someone has a real mental health episode at the table. It just encourages people to wear these things like badges (my trigger is is almost a statement of identity on a lot of these lifestreams and twitter discussions I have seen). I suspect in many cases, people are announcing mental health issues, where there aren't any. And I suspect many people who really need to be getting help for their mental health problems, are being made worse by these tools (because they really are no protection against something like a panic attack IMO).