Here's a three questions for those of you who say that system doesn't matter:
(1) Have you changed system within the last three years?
Yes. After my 3e game ended, we switched to Savage Worlds, and now Sufficiently Advanced. Next might be 4e, possibly with a side trek into Spirit of the Century, and there was some mention of another game whose name currently escapes me.
(2) How much did that cost you?
4e core set was 60 bucks IIRC (it's been a while), Savage Worlds Explorer's Edition was 10 bucks, SA is free, SOTC is playable for free with the online SRD (I'm not GMing), and the other games I don't know yet. So, so far, about 70 bucks.
(3) If system doesn't matter, how do you justify the expense?
IMHO, it is what you do, not what you say, that shows what your real values are.
RC
You are positing a false dichotomy here. It's not a case of "people matter, therefore system doesn't matter at all", but rather a case where people matter more than system does. That does not mean that system does not matter at all.
I'm changing systems because I'm bloody tired of 3e D&D and D&D in general. I played D&D every week, sometimes twice a week for about the last fifteen years or so almost exclusively. I want to play something different.
But, hell will freeze over before I start playing with people I don't like ever again. Pulled that stunt back when I was playing in the local FLGS and posting gamer ads on the (physical) bulletin boards. Never, ever again will I play with people I don't like, regardless of the system.
OTOH, I will play, say, D&D again, with people I like.
Oh, and just this last point:
RC said:
I can certainly point out a few 4e threads where the spectre of "The DM is doing it wrong" has already arisen.
Like this is different from ANY other edition? Why do you specifically call out 4e for this and not just a blanket D&D instead, since "The DM is doing it wrong" is a complaint that dates back to about the second day D&D was ever played.
