Mercurius
Legend
To me, there is no controversy as to what IS D&D- that would be anything legally sold by the IP holders with that designation, end of story. Anything besides those rulesets, despite similarity of (non-copyrightable) rules is just a copy.
So again, the sole area of contention is "feel"...and we get tripped up by the non-D&D clones that nonetheless deliver that feel, that personal, emotional response.
But how can we possible argue over "feeling" as that is completely personal? I mean, if I say that eating Cheetos feels like D&D to me, who is to say that I am wrong for feeling that way? Crazy, maybe, but wrong?
This is why I find the statement "4E does not feel like D&D to me" much less problematic than "4E is not D&D to me." The first emphasizes that what the individual is talking about is feeling; the latter could mean any number of things but seems to challenge the status of 4E as a valid form of D&D.
But if we can recognize that:
A) What feels like D&D is entirely up to the individual, and
B) What is D&D is most easily answered by what holds the brand name as D&D...
Then there is nothing to debate (unless we want to talk about whether Pathfinder or Labyrinth Lord are D&D). Or is there? Are you looking for an interpersonal agreement as to what "feels like" D&D?
To go back to my OP, my contention was and is that we all tap into what could be called the "D&D Experience" that is both universal (as a kind of archetype) and individual (as a personal feeling-experience). Maybe what has caused difficulties is my assertion that there is a universal element.