Kurotowa
Legend
I've been playing a single class Hexblade who's now 14th level. You want to know what some of my most used spells are? Armor of Agathys, Misty Step, and Dispel Magic. They're not there to make me better at fighting. I'm already pretty good at fighting, especially in a group that doesn't optimize, and if I need extra damage I've got Eldritch Smite. Instead, the spells are there to cover things like defense and mobility and utility that my sword fighting skills don't. So what you're missing is
4: She uses her magic to support her fighting with a larger array of tactical options that non-casters rarely get.
Not everything has to be a pure attack buff to be useful. The mobility to deal with terrain obstacles both in and out of combat is useful. The utility to pull out a clutch Dispel or Counterspell when the Wizard is tied up is useful. The ability to discourage a foe from hitting you because their attack sequence bounced 75 damage back into their face is useful. And that's before you start tucking in a few highly specialized spells into your list that almost never come up but are immensely useful when they do.
That's the appeal of the Hexblade for me.
4: She uses her magic to support her fighting with a larger array of tactical options that non-casters rarely get.
Not everything has to be a pure attack buff to be useful. The mobility to deal with terrain obstacles both in and out of combat is useful. The utility to pull out a clutch Dispel or Counterspell when the Wizard is tied up is useful. The ability to discourage a foe from hitting you because their attack sequence bounced 75 damage back into their face is useful. And that's before you start tucking in a few highly specialized spells into your list that almost never come up but are immensely useful when they do.
That's the appeal of the Hexblade for me.