Tip about getting female gamers...
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Here are some of the ways that I have found to meet other gamers, both Male and Female
1) join the RPGA and go to conventions. If you have never been
even to a small convention you will be amazed. And when
you get to the convention get into the games try both classic
and living events. BTW there are probably as many female
gamers in the living events as there are men.
2) join local clubs, gaming, sci-fi, or the SCA
3) go to your local gaming store and support it get to know the
people who work their, they are usually well informed on
gaming sceen in your area.
4) write and answer those 3x5 note cards that are posted in
most gaming stores.
5) use the internet there are scads of people trying to get into
games.
6) be prepaired to travel to their game dont make them come
to you.
If you do these things you WILL meet female gamers!!!
Now when you do meet a female gamer remember theses things
You are here to game! You are not here to meet women. Dont insult her by asking her out the minute you meet. I have seen to many guys ruin a game by ogiling and fawning over the women at the table. If you do this you will probably never game with her again. If you absolutly have to ask her out be polite and wait untill after the game is over or better yet several sessions have pased.
Also remember this women are gamers to. Treat the women at your table equally and with respect , and you will enrich your gaming experience. I have been gaming with women for a long time. I even met my wife thru gameing
1) join the RPGA and go to conventions. If you have never been
even to a small convention you will be amazed. And when
you get to the convention get into the games try both classic
and living events. BTW there are probably as many female
gamers in the living events as there are men.
2) join local clubs, gaming, sci-fi, or the SCA
3) go to your local gaming store and support it get to know the
people who work their, they are usually well informed on
gaming sceen in your area.
4) write and answer those 3x5 note cards that are posted in
most gaming stores.
5) use the internet there are scads of people trying to get into
games.
6) be prepaired to travel to their game dont make them come
to you.
If you do these things you WILL meet female gamers!!!
Now when you do meet a female gamer remember theses things
You are here to game! You are not here to meet women. Dont insult her by asking her out the minute you meet. I have seen to many guys ruin a game by ogiling and fawning over the women at the table. If you do this you will probably never game with her again. If you absolutly have to ask her out be polite and wait untill after the game is over or better yet several sessions have pased.
Also remember this women are gamers to. Treat the women at your table equally and with respect , and you will enrich your gaming experience. I have been gaming with women for a long time. I even met my wife thru gameing
barsoomcore
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Trepelano said:
Of course, that skinny guy (?) sold plenty of copies of that book to WOMEN. In my experience, the men who find women elusive and unfathomable do so largely because they just don't actually pay attention. Certainly women are more complicated than men (I've encountered shrubbery more complicated than men), but they're not some unfathomable mystery. Look, listen, learn.
Huh. The people I play with are either all male or all female. But you know, cool.
More seriously, roleplaying is an activity with broad appeal that encompasses all sorts of sensibilities. Some women like to play a certain style. Some men like to play a certain style. Attracting players who are suited to your campaign's style is exactly the same problem as finding friends who are suited to your life style. The only way to do it is to find ways to show people what it's all about and see if they're interested. You get better at it as time goes on.
Now, if the point of the thread is "How do I meet hot chicks?" -- you're on your own, there. I already got one, and she plays in my campaign, and yes, I have a big grin on my face. Nyah nyah.
"they're not some unfathomable mystery"
Every time I think I've gotten to understand them they do something that totally throws off my conclusions and trashes all my ideas. When I was younger I thought I could come to understand them... but I've learned otherwise in my years.
I have gained a clearer understanding of how they are likely to react... I know that X event will likely result in Y reaction... but the why's are often lost to me
. Like I said, anytime I think I figured it out, something new happens that blows it away, lol.
Anyway, this is all more then a bit off-topic... but I had to get my 2 cents in.
Every time I think I've gotten to understand them they do something that totally throws off my conclusions and trashes all my ideas. When I was younger I thought I could come to understand them... but I've learned otherwise in my years.
I have gained a clearer understanding of how they are likely to react... I know that X event will likely result in Y reaction... but the why's are often lost to me
. Like I said, anytime I think I figured it out, something new happens that blows it away, lol.Anyway, this is all more then a bit off-topic... but I had to get my 2 cents in.
barsoomcore
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Arravis said:[BEvery time I think I've gotten to understand them they do something that totally throws off my conclusions and trashes all my ideas. When I was younger I thought I could come to understand them... but I've learned otherwise in my years.
I have gained a clearer understanding of how they are likely to react... I know that X event will likely result in Y reaction... but the why's are often lost to me
Anyway, this is all more then a bit off-topic... but I had to get my 2 cents in. [/B]
I love the references to "they" and "them" -- you know, women are different, one from the other. Why don't you try approaching a woman as a unique individual rather than a member of a monolithic class whose reactions you can readily predict.
OF COURSE you can't predict them -- OF COURSE your ideas keep getting trashed -- they're human beings, which makes them inherently unpredictable.
Sheesh. This just proves my point.
I've been living with my girlfriend for two years now, so I am talking with a bit of experience.
I think it's naive to think that women do not have some behaviors and tendencies that are common among women as a whole. The same thing with guys. If you think that everyone is an individual and not all affected by their hormones, physiology and genes, I recommend you take a look at a biology book. Men and women are inherently different, there are many similarities but there are many differences as well.
In my opinion, if you think you understand women or anyone else for that fact, you are lying to yourself. It's hard enough if not nearly impossible to understand our own selves, much less someone else. Every person, man or woman, is an individual. But every person is also influenced by their biology. Women are influenced in ways different from men. I, to a slight extend, understand how biology influences my own behavior and emotions, but I honestly have no real clue nor can have a clue, how a woman feels in reaction to her biology. There's no real point of reference to make a comparison with. Any allusions I make to understanding are merely supperficial and nothing more. I can understand to a slight extend... but if you analyze it carefully you'll see that if quickly falls apart and that's it based on inherently biased (male for me) assumptions.
As an old dead greek guy once said, the one thing I know above all, is that I don't know.
I think it's naive to think that women do not have some behaviors and tendencies that are common among women as a whole. The same thing with guys. If you think that everyone is an individual and not all affected by their hormones, physiology and genes, I recommend you take a look at a biology book. Men and women are inherently different, there are many similarities but there are many differences as well.
In my opinion, if you think you understand women or anyone else for that fact, you are lying to yourself. It's hard enough if not nearly impossible to understand our own selves, much less someone else. Every person, man or woman, is an individual. But every person is also influenced by their biology. Women are influenced in ways different from men. I, to a slight extend, understand how biology influences my own behavior and emotions, but I honestly have no real clue nor can have a clue, how a woman feels in reaction to her biology. There's no real point of reference to make a comparison with. Any allusions I make to understanding are merely supperficial and nothing more. I can understand to a slight extend... but if you analyze it carefully you'll see that if quickly falls apart and that's it based on inherently biased (male for me) assumptions.
As an old dead greek guy once said, the one thing I know above all, is that I don't know.
OK, this is a bit different. My wife has expressed an occasional interest in gaming. She is 32 and has never done it before. She's originally from an entirely different culture (mainland China) and has very little exposure to fantasy or science fiction.... she liked "Spider-Man", but was blase about the "Lord of the Rings" movie.
Any advice on how to get her into gaming? I'm going to have her watch a bit this coming Saturday, but am not sure how that will go over, as she is tired and worn down from being in the early stages of pregnancy.
Any advice on how to get her into gaming? I'm going to have her watch a bit this coming Saturday, but am not sure how that will go over, as she is tired and worn down from being in the early stages of pregnancy.
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