Kahuna Burger
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you are bad bad people....Simplicity said:
And I love you all....
Why add voices, just remix what they've got...
"James buffered up to the cars very gently...."
Tips for an Expectant Father
- Thread starter Olaf the Stout
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And I love you all....
Why add voices, just remix what they've got...
"James buffered up to the cars very gently...."
Olaf the Stout
Legend
takyris said:
I don't know if the crane reacted that badly. You haven't seen me deal with a spider! Sure, they're small and I've never been bitten by one (and even if I was, chances are it probably wouldn't give me more than some localised swelling), but do you think I don't get a little shock when I see one unexpectedly. For even more humour, what me do my own special little dance when I discover that one has dropped onto my head from above and started crawling around in my hair!
Olaf the Stout
Aurora
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Heeheehee Dshai wants to make a one-shot based on Dora. You have a map that takes you to 2 dangerous places before the place you are trying to actually get to. A bag of holding that someone else has to activate for you to be able to use.......Aeolius said:I had to watch myself, as I often mock Dora aloud. Map always mentions three places for Dora to visit on her daily quest. I caught my kids copying me as I sang "Bridge, Forest, Liquor Store!!"
"Excuse me sir. I need to get into my bag."
"So, do it."
"You don't understand. Can you yell 'bag' for me?"
".............."
Simplicity
Explorer
Aurora said:
Yeah, the MAP is really Dora's biggest nemesis. I was watching one episode where it was like... Go over the wall, across the boardwalk, and then go to the BOTTOM OF THE OCEAN.
And I'm just like, what the hell?!?! She's like 5 or something?!?!
Not to mention all the times she has to cross crocodile lake back and forth.
Now you tell Dora: Baghdad, Volcano, CENTER OF THE SUN! Muahahaha!
Hijinks
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Our kid will only get to watch Warner Brothers cartoons (his idea) and "Dot and the Kangaroo(mine). That's it. Ok, not really. But that's what we'd prefer.
Anyway, I'm 5 months pregnant with our first as well (waves to her husband who she just directed to this thread but he said he had to work right now, wth is up with that...). I'll share some of the advice I've gotten so far from other moms:
1.) Dunno how excitable your wife is but, if you have anyone try to tell her horror stories about the most terrible birth ever and they were in labor for 40 days and ripped sideways and the baby was chartreuse when it came out... don't let them. It does first time parents absolutely zero good to hear the horror stories. Your birth will be different from everyone else's in the world and there's no point whatsoever in dreading what *might* happen. Know what could happen and be prepared to handle it, but don't dread it.
2.) To go along with #1, don't let anyone tell you or your wife what you SHOULD do for a birth. There are some people out there who are so anti-epidural or anti-c-section that they'll rail against it for hours if you let them. Are medical interventions always necessary? Not always. As someone mentioned on page 1, dr's have been known to try to move women along in their labor in order to make it easier for the dr, not the parents. Just be vigilant and aware of why certain things are necessary and when, and be prepared to say "I don't think we need that right now."
OTOH, if your wife wants an epidural NOW, let her have it
Same thing goes for breastfeeding. If your wife struggles and tries and agonizes for weeks and it just doesn't work, don't let anyone make her feel badly about that. My sister is a rabid pro-breastfeeder and she is very contemptuous of any woman who bottle feeds. It's frankly none of her business which my husband and I decide to do for our family. If anyone tries to make your wife feel like less of a mother (and yes, there are a lot of women out there who will try this), don't let them. Step in and tell them to butt out.
3.) Send thank-you notes for baby gifts
4.) You might be stocking up on diapers now, but there are a lot of newborns with sensitive skin that certain brands won't work on. Instead of buying diapers, I've been buying a $10 gift card to Target or Walmart each week with my groceries. I've got a stack of 'em so far. So I will use those to buy diapers when the baby arrives, and I can try different brands to decide which ones work best for my baby.
5.) I've heard that cloth diapers make excellent burp cloths.
Anyway, I'm 5 months pregnant with our first as well (waves to her husband who she just directed to this thread but he said he had to work right now, wth is up with that...). I'll share some of the advice I've gotten so far from other moms:
1.) Dunno how excitable your wife is but, if you have anyone try to tell her horror stories about the most terrible birth ever and they were in labor for 40 days and ripped sideways and the baby was chartreuse when it came out... don't let them. It does first time parents absolutely zero good to hear the horror stories. Your birth will be different from everyone else's in the world and there's no point whatsoever in dreading what *might* happen. Know what could happen and be prepared to handle it, but don't dread it.
2.) To go along with #1, don't let anyone tell you or your wife what you SHOULD do for a birth. There are some people out there who are so anti-epidural or anti-c-section that they'll rail against it for hours if you let them. Are medical interventions always necessary? Not always. As someone mentioned on page 1, dr's have been known to try to move women along in their labor in order to make it easier for the dr, not the parents. Just be vigilant and aware of why certain things are necessary and when, and be prepared to say "I don't think we need that right now."
OTOH, if your wife wants an epidural NOW, let her have it
Same thing goes for breastfeeding. If your wife struggles and tries and agonizes for weeks and it just doesn't work, don't let anyone make her feel badly about that. My sister is a rabid pro-breastfeeder and she is very contemptuous of any woman who bottle feeds. It's frankly none of her business which my husband and I decide to do for our family. If anyone tries to make your wife feel like less of a mother (and yes, there are a lot of women out there who will try this), don't let them. Step in and tell them to butt out.
3.) Send thank-you notes for baby gifts
4.) You might be stocking up on diapers now, but there are a lot of newborns with sensitive skin that certain brands won't work on. Instead of buying diapers, I've been buying a $10 gift card to Target or Walmart each week with my groceries. I've got a stack of 'em so far. So I will use those to buy diapers when the baby arrives, and I can try different brands to decide which ones work best for my baby.
5.) I've heard that cloth diapers make excellent burp cloths.
Kahuna Burger
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*whistles innocently* (actually I only tend to rail against [doctor's] convenience inductions.)Hijinks said:
And believe it or not, I had one woman shortly after my pregnancy inform me and some other natural birthed mamas that it was selfish to refuse an epidural and somehow was a case of putting our egos before the child.
You will find insanity in all flavors.edit :
oh and on cloth diapers - even if you don't go that route overall, consider putting some in the kid's diaper as 'doublers' when you are ready to start thinking potty training. Disposable diapers can be too effective at keeping the moisture away from the kid, so they don't learn what it feels like when they are peeing/about to pee. (which then leads to super expensive special diapers with a non absorbant strip.
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Glyfair
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The one tip I have isn't immediately relevant, but I've noticed is actually very good.
Never threaten something you aren't willing to follow through on. Kids have selective memories just like adults. If you fail to follow through on a threat they remember that one time rather than the ten times you follow through. Whenever you threaten something later they will feel they have a good chance of you not following through with it.
For example, I've seen a lot of parents have unruly children in stores. They'll tell the kids that they are leaving and not getting the kids anything if they don't calm down. A large percentage of the time the kids don't calm down and the parents still get the kids what they were at teh store for. Needless to say, those are usually the kids misbehaving the most.
Never threaten something you aren't willing to follow through on. Kids have selective memories just like adults. If you fail to follow through on a threat they remember that one time rather than the ten times you follow through. Whenever you threaten something later they will feel they have a good chance of you not following through with it.
For example, I've seen a lot of parents have unruly children in stores. They'll tell the kids that they are leaving and not getting the kids anything if they don't calm down. A large percentage of the time the kids don't calm down and the parents still get the kids what they were at teh store for. Needless to say, those are usually the kids misbehaving the most.
Olaf the Stout
Legend
Hijinks said:Our kid will only get to watch Warner Brothers cartoons (his idea) and "Dot and the Kangaroo(mine). That's it. Ok, not really. But that's what we'd prefer.
Anyway, I'm 5 months pregnant with our first as well (waves to her husband who she just directed to this thread but he said he had to work right now, wth is up with that...). I'll share some of the advice I've gotten so far from other moms:
1.) Dunno how excitable your wife is but, if you have anyone try to tell her horror stories about the most terrible birth ever and they were in labor for 40 days and ripped sideways and the baby was chartreuse when it came out... don't let them. It does first time parents absolutely zero good to hear the horror stories. Your birth will be different from everyone else's in the world and there's no point whatsoever in dreading what *might* happen. Know what could happen and be prepared to handle it, but don't dread it.
2.) To go along with #1, don't let anyone tell you or your wife what you SHOULD do for a birth. There are some people out there who are so anti-epidural or anti-c-section that they'll rail against it for hours if you let them. Are medical interventions always necessary? Not always. As someone mentioned on page 1, dr's have been known to try to move women along in their labor in order to make it easier for the dr, not the parents. Just be vigilant and aware of why certain things are necessary and when, and be prepared to say "I don't think we need that right now."
OTOH, if your wife wants an epidural NOW, let her have it
Same thing goes for breastfeeding. If your wife struggles and tries and agonizes for weeks and it just doesn't work, don't let anyone make her feel badly about that. My sister is a rabid pro-breastfeeder and she is very contemptuous of any woman who bottle feeds. It's frankly none of her business which my husband and I decide to do for our family. If anyone tries to make your wife feel like less of a mother (and yes, there are a lot of women out there who will try this), don't let them. Step in and tell them to butt out.
3.) Send thank-you notes for baby gifts
4.) You might be stocking up on diapers now, but there are a lot of newborns with sensitive skin that certain brands won't work on. Instead of buying diapers, I've been buying a $10 gift card to Target or Walmart each week with my groceries. I've got a stack of 'em so far. So I will use those to buy diapers when the baby arrives, and I can try different brands to decide which ones work best for my baby.
5.) I've heard that cloth diapers make excellent burp cloths.
Yeah, my wife has had enough of people telling her the birthing horror stories. This is one thing where being a Kindergarten Teacher has been a disadvantage for her. It seems people only ever want to tell you all the bad things that happen. Nobody ever goes on about the nice normal pregnancy that they had!
And we won't be letting anyone force us into anything. My wife does get a bit fed up with some people that try to force her opinions on her. I'm pretty good at just blocking it out most of the time. If anyone persists at telling us what we *have* to do with our child (and not should do) I will be telling them where to go pretty quickly.
I'm normally a very laid back guy that will go along with almost anything. However, I'm not going to raise my child in a certain way to keep someone else happy or because someone told me to. Obviously I will listen to advice from doctors, etc., but I'm not going to do something just because random stranger or relative says that's what I have to do.
My wife has already told me that I have to write down what all the gifts are that people give us at the hospital so that she can write thank-you notes. (I may not listen to some people but I'm not going to argue with a hormonal, heavily pregnant woman! I learn quickly!!
)Olaf the Stout
Kahuna Burger
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Please pass on to your wife that I had a very normal, boring, occasionally fun pregnancy, and a long and unexciting lead up to a perfectly normal birth, with no complications that required any more intervention than a couple of well trained homebirth midwives could provide.Olaf the Stout said:
(see, that's why people don't tell her, because its boring!)Similar Threads
