werk said:
Without wandering too far into politics...or making sweeping didactic generalizations...I think women should be treated with the same respect given to men. Very few wish to be treated AS men.
Treat them as women, repect them as equals.
Just because you open the door for someone doesn't mean their opinion is worth less or you are allowed to objectify them. If anything, acts of chivalry insinuate the opposite.
I hold doors for men all the time, does that make them women? or am I gay? So hard to keep all the rules strait...
(laughing at myself)
Heck, I hold open doors for guys also, it's just a polite thing to do. In my post, I was talking about always opening the door for a lady - be it a car door, office door, etc.
The point of my post is this: women can be treated like "just one of the guys" or they can be treated "like a lady", but not both.
If you want to be treated like "just one of guys", be prepared to hear dirty jokes, get teased about your shortcomings, smell flatulence, and discuss topics such as beer, football, trucks, fishing, and which Hollywood actresses have the best T&A.
If you want to be treated "like a lady", then men will pull out your chair for you, avoid crude/vulgar talk when you're around, smile and nod politely while you talk about things like clothes and relationships, etc. But, by definition, being treated like a lady means that you'll be treated differently than a man (this does not necessarily mean that you'll be treated as an inferior - just different).